July 22, 2010 Arno
didn't care much for skateboarding. We found out that it
accelerates quickly, and has no brakes. It takes some pretty
sophisticated skills to handle so simple a vehicle safely. On the
other hand, the kick scooter is becoming a lot of fun. He's
gained a lot of confidence using it, and discovered that when I get on
my bike and ride alongside him, we can explore the neighborhood.
He works up a pretty good sweat. Maybe I should get a scooter,
too, so I can get more exercise with him. I need it more than he
does.
July 5, 2010 This
year, we are together for Independence Day. We went to
Hillsboro's parade Saturday morning. It was the sort of parade
where people decorated their tractors and trailers with flags and
bunting, and rode down the middle of the street tossing out
candy. A high school marching band gave us "Louie, Louie."
Sunday night we lit fireworks in front of the house. Toss in a
couple hours of Toy Story 3 Wii, and a play date with Zachary, and it
made for a pretty good weekend.
June 20, 2010 Arno
made me a Father's Day card
and Bettina had him give me some goodies (trail mix and
chocolate).
Later, I took Arno out shopping - we ran the grocery errands, but first
stopped at Powell's, where he picked out a Superman lunch box, a
four-color rocket pen, and a few Speed Racer books. We both
enjoyed
that expedition.
Yesterday, we all went to see Toy
Story 3. It was excellent. Pixar
delivers pretty reliably, but I wasn't the only one a little nervous
about a sequel to the beloved Toy
Story and Toy Story 2.
This
one
carries
the burden handsomely.
June 13, 2010
Arno
finished
another
term
at Westside Music School. September
was a challenging transition to a new class with other kids who were
all at least two years older than him, but he practiced diligently all
year and wound up making us proud. He participated in a
performance program called "Festival"
this
spring,
and
earned
the
highest
rating.
The extra practice
and stress associated with that, though, left him a bit worn out, so
for his Spring recital he took it easy and just played a favorite song,
The Lion Sleeps
Tonight. This summer, we'll ease off on the piano a bit.
Arno is going to take a skateboarding class at THPRD. We
have the skateboard and the protective gear, and we've been watching
instructional
DVDs from the library, and started trying
out the basics
in the garage. Those first actual steps on a skateboard are
somewhat unnerving.
Arno and I usually read together for twenty minutes or so at
night. We fell into a loose agreement that either he will read
his choice to me, or I will read my choice to him. Usually he
prefers to read his choice to me. But the past few days, he has
opted to listen to The
Odyssey. It took a few chapters to draw him
in, but the story has taken hold. I read to him from the linked
version by Geraldine McCaughrean - she brings the personal drama to
life most effectively for someone like Arno. Then we look at Alan
Lee's illustrations in The
Wanderings
of
Odysseus:
The Story of the Odyssey, and look up whatever gods and
goddesses have come into the story in The
Gods
and
Goddesses
of Olympus.
May 11,
2010 Today was "bring a stuffed
animala to school" day for Arno's
class. He brought the ladybug pillow pet his Grandma gave him for
Christmas.
His ladybug made friends with Kevin's lion, Sam's puppy, and Drew's
gorilla. It was a good day for Ladybug.
May 7, 2010
Arno wrote this poem for Mother's Day:
My
Mama's eyes are beautiful. When she is happy her eyes are like
gloing flowers. I never saw my Mama sad. I never saw my Mama silly. When she is proud her eyes are open
rily big like a lion. When she is angry her eyes are like
side wase triiaggulls frawning. I know she loves me because her eyes
pay most etenshen to me like a lion creeping towords a prey.
February 17, 2010
Arno is seven years old today. We had a small celebration on
Saturday, when our friends Tim, Litza and Jake came over, with their
foreign exchange student guest Victor from Brazil.
We watched Fiddler on the Roof
last week, prompted by homework for his music class, which included the
theme from this movie. I was surprised to see how much Arno
connected with Tevye. He loved Tevye's dancing and danced
joyously along with him; sympathized, saying "poor old man," when Tevye
suffered; and asked, "why do they believe in God?" when all the Jews
were being driven away from their homes.
Arno discovered chess last week. He saw me playing online, and
was immediately fascinated. We've been playing (over a real
board) most nights since then.
January 26, 2010
We're considering getting a small animal, maybe a hamster or a guinea
pig. So we were reading a book about hamsters and gerbils the
other day. It taught us that hamsters are solitary, and gerbils
are social, so if you want a hamster, better get only one, but if you
want a gerbil, better get at least two - two hamsters will fight, but
one gerbil will be lonely. Arno recalled that in "G-Force", the
hamster drew a territorial line and defended it fiercely, wanting no
one else in his space.
September 8,
2009 Today is Arno's first day in first grade.
In the past week, he's told us a few things that worried him. (1) He
won't have enough time to eat his lunch. (2) He'll get off at the wrong
bus stop. (This will be his first time riding the bus home.) (3) He'll
be sent to the principal's office. (We saw Charlie
Brown get sent to the principal's office recently.) (4) He'll get
lost. (It did feel big and crowded at the open house last
week.) Last night,
he proposed getting up at 4am, so he could play before going to
school. I'm glad he's talking to us about all this, so we can
help him.
Arno and Bettina didn't sleep all that well last night. But Arno
came home from school happy. "I like first grade!" he announced
to Bettina. When I got home, he gave me a big hug and told me,
"I'm a real first grader!"
September 5,
2009 Arno's friend Shawn had a magician at his
birthday party. Arno was disappointed and even a bit angry after
the magic show. "I don't think that was real magic. He
probably hid the egg in his other hand." So we talked a bit about
story magicians versus real life magicians.
August 2, 2009 Bettina
writes from Taiwan:
It's steaming hot here in Taiwan. Today the temperature in
Hsinchu is 39.4 degree C (103 Fahrenheit), the highest in Taiwan.
I took Arno for haircut. The hairdresser really liked
Arno. She
gave Arno crackers and said : " He is so cute. I feel I
want to kiss
him." Arno's Mandarin has improved dramatically so he understood
and
could keep the conversation going. The hairdresser asked Arno to
stay
in Taiwan. Arno said : "but I miss my Daddy!" Why
didn't your Daddy
come with you to Taiwan? "He has to work." I guess your
Daddy doesn't
miss you. You can stay in Taiwan. This made Arno
angry! He yelled "
I miss my Daddy!"
Yesterday, Nu-Nu and I took our parents and children out for
dinner
to celebrate Father's Day in advance, because it's hard to make a
reservation on Father's day (8/8). Arno is watching Kai-Kai
playing
the piano now.
Ya-Chuan has to work this weekend, so he and his family didn't
come
back to Hsinchu. Arno missed Abi very much, even though Abi is
very
active and bothers him when he draws. According to my
observation,
Arno seems very tolerant and can take care of kids who are younger than
him. In his art class, there is a little girl who is also the
only
child in her family. Arno would play with her in the indoor
playground, in a very caring and nice way. The girl's
mother is very happy and invited us to their home several times.
I
thanked her but I don't want to go out very often in such steaming hot
weather. Last Friday was supposed to be that litttle girl's last
time
to the art class. Knowing that Arno still has one more
class, the
girl's mother extended her daughter's class just for her daughter to
have one more chance to play with Arno. My parents' neighbor has
an eight
month old baby girl. They don't have an air conditioner in their
living
room so Katie and Sherry (Ting Ting) would bring the baby girl over to
my parents' place. Arno has been very nice and kind to the
baby. He
asked to hold the baby girl. When he did that, Katie and Sherry
would
reach out their hands and prepare to catch the baby, in case Arno
accidentally drop the baby. When Arno plays with other older
cousins,
however he usually plays wildly and aggressively. Katie and
Sherry
would let him win and do whatever he wants. Kevin (Kai
Kai) plays with
him but if Arno is getting wildly, he would go away. Charleen
(Little
10) is the only one who would really compete with Arno for the winner.
We have about ten more days to stay in Taiwan.
Katie is getting
sadder every time when I mentioned about packing my
luggage. Oh, I
wish I could bring her with us to US!
July 29, 2009 Bettina writes from Taiwan:
Arno and I have almost recovered from our colds. When we
stayed with Katie's
family, Arno finished 1A math (Charleen's book) and played every song
in Harmony Road 4. Since he almost recovered from his cold, I let
him go
over Harmony Road again. This time he uses the piano at
Nu-Nu's apartment. He also gets the chance to see Ting Ting
and Kai Kai practice
the piano.
Last weekend, Yar-Chuan took us to a restaurant. This
weekend,
Nu-Nu is going to take us and my parents out. Arno has made
great
progress in Mandarin. I am very satisfed with his
progress.
Arno wants to tell you : "I miss you very much. And I played
a
car computer game at Kai Kai's home. Pikachu is doing very
well, too."
July 20, 2009 Bettina writes frrom Taiwan:
I have a cold now. I have sore throat, running nose and
cough. I couldn't sleep on Friday night so on Saturday morning, I
called Nu-Nu and asked if she could take Arno to their
home. I need sleep and I don't want to give my cold to
Arno. She was very happy to pick up Arno after lunch.
Arno had a wonderful time with Nu-Nu's family. Nu-Nu suggested
that Arno sleep with them on Saturday. I agreed. I went to
see the doctor. The prescription made me very sleepy all day.
This Arno's first night without me, since he was born. According
to Nu-Nu, Arno behaved very well and slept through the night
soundly. I am very grateful to her and her
family. Also, it seemed to me that having stayed two days
with Nu-Nu's family, Arno picked up more Mandarin.
Arno came back to me on Sunday evening. I am much better
now and can take care of him.
July 17, 2009 Bettina writes from Taiwan:
I told Arno that the mascot of Springville (Arno's new school this
fall) is silver wolf.
He is not happy. He said wolf is a bad guy. I guess he got
this
impression from the story :Three little pigs and the wolf." and the
cartoon " the sheep and the wolf" which he watches with cousins every
day in Taiwan. The wolf is tricky and tries everything he can to
catch
sheep to eat but the sheep work together and outwit/escape from the
wolf in every episode.
If I were the principle of Springville, I would probably make up a
story to make wolf look good so that the kids would be proud of their
school.
July 14, 2009 Bettina writes from Taiwan:
This weekend we went to Ya-Ren's second home
-- a new apartment. There are swimming pool, spa, little
library...
which are shared by all residents in the apartment. We used the
swimming pool and spa. Arno really enjoys the spa. Later,
Arno played
PS3 (a race car video game). When we went back to my parents'
place
for dinner, Abe just woke up from his nap.
Arno continues his swimming class. He no longer has the
privilege
of one-on-one with the coach, because a couple of day cares have
contracts
with this swimming school. The day care teachers take kids to
join the
class. As the result, it's rather crowded in the swimming
pool.
Arno's coach has to take care of ten kids. They really pay attention to
the details. Every kick, every stroke.... has to be
correct. Arno can
hold his breath in the water for ten seconds, reach out his arms, kick
legs to move forward. Arno is not the best swimmer in his
class but
he is very comfortable in the water. As long as he makes progress
every day, I am sure he'll be a good swimmer.
Yesterday, after dinner Arno drew a car. He cut it off the
paper
and used tape/paper to make a base. Mei Hui (Katie's mother)
liked it
and asked :" Who taught you to make a base?" Arno replied proudly
in
Mandarin, "my Daddy".
Arno's Mandarin has improved dramatically. We have a good
time
here.
July 9, 2009 Bettina writes from Taiwan:
We start a regualr and busy week again. In the morning, Arno
studies Mandarin and math, and plays the piano. Today, he played
an A minor
song, Enchanted Forest. He has swimming class from Monday to
Saturday,
each time ninety minutes; music class on Tuesday evening and art class
on
Friday afternoon.
Yesterday, we went to observe in Charleen's music class.
Besides
the regular singing, playing, and dancing, what impressed me was : when
they
learn a new song, the teacher will ask the class to come to the big
piano and
watch how she plays the new song. For some tricky parts, the
teacher
quizzes them if they should hit the white key or black key; if it's
beyond the scale, she will teach them which finger to use to play the
notes. For old songs, she asked the class to read the notes for
twenty
seconds, then everybody plays together. Yesterday, she used a big
poster to teach the class all kinds of brass instruments. Then
she
played a CD. The class is supposed to tell what kind of brass
insturments are used to play the song. At the end of the class,
Arno
walked toward the teacher and said : "Thank you, teacher Yeh.
I'll see
you next time." in Mandarin! I was very proud of him.
July 7, 2009 Bettina writes from Taiwan:
Arno and I had a wonderful weekend. On
Saturday, after Arno's swimming class, Nu-Nu and Hua-Wei took us to
Hsin-Chu harbor. It has been developed as one of Hsin-Chu's eight
sightseeing spots. We took a lift to an observation tower to
overlook
the pacific ocean and the harbor. The most exciting part for Arno
was
flying kites. Arno was hesitating at first but soon he joined
us. The
wind brought our kites higher and higher. Lots of people flew
kites
there. Pretty soon the sky was full of different colors and
different
shaped kites. There were play grounds, a car racing area, a
boating
area..... but we spent too much time flying kites so we didn't have
time to do other things. Nu-Nu and Hua-Wei took us to a
fancy
restaurant for dinner afterwards.
On Sunday, Nu-Nu and Hua-Wei took us to Lavender Cottage. It
was
a beautiful lavender garden. Not knowing thaty they had changd
the
open hours, we woke up early so as to avoide the sizzling hot
temperature during the day. To our surprise, they did't open
until
10:00am. Arno was a little bit fussy, partly because of not
having enough
sleep, partly because it was too hot.
After lunch, we went to a hot-spring spa. It was a hit for
both
Arno and me. The spa equipped with some amusement facilities was
located in high altitude. So it wasn't very hot there. Arno
was very
excited playing at the water slide and shooting a water gun with
Kai-Kai
and Ting-Ting. We jumped from pool to pool (warm water to cold
water). He was very excited all afternoon. You can imagine
ther he
refused to leave when it's time to go. I suggested that we order
pizza for dinner and watch Ratatouille at Nu-Nu's home. He liked
the
idea!
We slept at Katie's home. At bedtime, I read stories to Arno
and
Charleen. We also talked about what we had done at the weekend.
Indeed, we had a wonderful weekend.
July 1, 2009 Arno and Bettina are in Taiwan for eight
weeks. Bettina writes:
Today Arno had his first swimming class in Taiwan. He
started
from the beginner level. There are seven kids in his group (white
cap) and two coaches. I told the leading coach that Arno's
Mandarin may not be
efficient to fully understand him. I asked the leading
coach to speak
slowly to Arno.
Later, they sent a female coach to teach Arno. Arno wound up
with a one on one class. He was a little bit nervous for the
first thirty
minutes. It was a ninety minute class without break.
The female coach
was very patient and Arno gradually enjoyed it. When the class
was
over, I asked him " Do you like the class?" He happily told me
:"Yes!". I felt relieved. He had a shower after the
class. Then, he
was very hungry. Luckily, my Mom had prepared snacks and
let me bring
them to the class. Arno had his snack with Katie, Ting Ting and
Kai Kai, who are also taking the class.
After the snack, we went home.
Little 10 (Charleen) saw all cousins going to swimming
class. She
wanted to join us, too. So, her parents are going to
cut down her
summer camp to four days a week so that she can have swimming class on
Friday and Saturday with cousins.
Oh, Last night we went to Charleen's music class. The
teacher
was very happy to see us again. I had bought a box of jelly beans
from
Delta. I gave it to the teacher as a present. The
teacher taught the class to compose songs. To be specific, if
they are
playing a song in G major, they need to compose chords for this
song.
They'll decide whether they should use So-Ti-Re, So-Do-Me or Fa#-Do-Re
in each measure. She also taught the class to sing and
dance. Part of
the reasons I like her is : when she taught the class to sing and
dance, she seemed to enjoy the singing and dancing herself, instead of
just a job. Unless Arno is too tired from the swimming class,
I'll
keep taking him to the music class every Tuesday night.
June 11, 2009 Bettina
writes:
I am happy and surprised to notice that Arno, at the age of
six, sees things from different angles and with kindness.
One of his journal entries in kindergarten was "Fishing with Robots",
in which he wrote, "I like fishing with robots. It is fun.
But not for the fish!" He drew pictures to go with this little
story. His teacher liked it and "published" it on 2/23/2009, and
had Arno read it to the class.
Today (6/10/2009) we watched a TV show, "Sid, the Science Kid".
It talked about using soap and water to wash away germs so as to stay
healthy. They had a vivid cartoon to illustrate germs getting
washed away and going down the drain. Arno worried, " the water
is going to the ocean. If the germs go to the ocean, then the
fish will be sick!"
This also reminded me that the other day, he mused, "are our poop and
pee going to the ocean? The fish won't like it." I think
it's time to explain to him that waste water goes through "water
treatment" before they it gets to the ocean, so that he doesn't need to
worry about the fish.
I am happy that my little boy is very kind-hearted, not just thinking
of himself.
January 31,
2009 Arno's "Instructions for the computer game":
"When there's a red blinking light that has blinking letters on it that
spell BURN-E, then go to your master and then push the right arrow and
then you're in the elevator and it will take you to the broken part of
the spaceship. You have to help BURN-E fix it before the tools
float away. And when the tools start to float away, grab them
quickly. Then you'll be able to fix the broken part of the
spaceship again. If you can fix it as well as any other robots
can do it, then you're the winner."
January 30, 2009 Arno wrote up a checklist for me,
folded it up and enveloped it, and put it on my desk.
To Daddy from Arno Herbie Smart
and
Good Pick
up
toys
[checked] Yell
[not
checked] Listen
[checked] Bump
[not
checked] Thoughtful
[checked]
He explained that the smart and good items were checked, and the bad
items were not checked. It seems to be a mix of items that apply
to different members of the household.
January 24,
2009 Arno's been going to Westside Music School
for almost two years now. Tonight, he had his first
recital. "Hi, my name is Arno, and I'm going to play Ode to Joy." He smiled
throughout his performance, as if knowing and enjoying the competence
he'd gained through daily practice.
January 20, 2009 We were watching the inauguration
today, when Arno asked me, "Is it true that Barack Obama is
dying?" "No!" I replied, "he is becoming our president! Why do
you think he's dying?" and he referred back to our conversation on the
seventh. Maybe he's trying to sort out the notion that all human
beings are mortal, even Barack Obama.
January 7, 2009 The
other day Arno said he hoped we could keep (something, I forget what)
for seven hundred years. "Seven hundred years!" I responded,
"we'll be dead long before then!" This was a disturbing
revelation to Arno. "I don't want to die! I want to be
alive and play!" So we went on to have a bit of a serious
discussion about living and dying. "I am not sure you are right,"
he told me near the end.
December 24 Arno
watched me make Christmas cookies. He assigned the reindeer
cookies to Bettina, the snowmen to me, the trees to himself, and the
stars to ... Mach
Six. Arno enjoyed sprinkling yellow sugar decorations on the
frosted cookies. When it came time to actually eating, he wanted
a star, for Mach Six. He licked off the frosting and occasionally
put the cookie to Mach Six's "mouth".
December 23 Our flight out of Portland was cancelled!
The Portland airport doesn't have enough de-icing machines to keep up
its normal traffic in this weather. So we'll be flying out to
North Carolina in late March.
We put chains on the Civic and trekked out to the neighborhood
library. A girl asked, "are you Arno?" He answered her,
"yes", and then fled from the encounter. I picked it up from
there. Megan is in another kindergarten class next to Arno's, and
knows him, I suppose, from recess play. Bettina was eager to
connect with Megan and her mother, because they speak standard
Mandarin. In fact, they are from Beijing, whose dialect is the
basis for the standard.
Megan's
mother
told
Bettina
that
they
fled
China
to
escape
religious
persecution
-
she is a practitioner of Falun Gong.
December 21 Since
we're going to spend Christmas away from home, we have to open our
Christmas presents early. And we like spreading it out a bit,
anyway - each gift gets more attention if it isn't opened the same day
as all the rest. Yesterday morning, Arno opened a Leapster with a
Cars cartridge. I had bought this with some ambivalence.
Arno entered into its embrace with passion. He played for over an
hour in the morning, and declined an opportunity to go to his friend
Zachary's house for snow play after lunch, preferring to play with the
Leapster. This level of obsession is definitely not something we
support, so I put it away, telling him he could play with it again
after dinner. He sulked all afternoon. After dinner, he
played for over an hour again, until we told him that was enough.
December 17 We're getting snow this week - the most we've
seen since moving here. Arno is having a great time saucering
down the driveway.
November 8 In
the past few weeks, I've played a few games of checkers with
Arno. He's caught on pretty quickly and is pretty good at seeing
what moves put a piece in immediate jeopardy. Emotionally, he's
not very tough when it comes to losing, and I don't feel a need to push
that too hard. So he almost always wins.
November 3 We met with Arno's kindergarten teacher, Mrs.
Gilchrist, for our first parent-teacher conference. Arno came
along because we had no one else to look after him. We thought he
would be drawing or doing mazes in the next room, but there was no next
room, so he sat at the other end of the table. He was very quiet
while we all talked about that most fascinating subject, him.
In two months, Mrs. Gilchrist has correctly and insightfully understood
Arno. He's bright, reading well into first grade level, and is
sweet and friendly, but needs a little help socially. He has some
tendency to be shy and avoid attention. So our goals are to help
him socially and challenge him intellectually.
He's in a special "I can!" program Tuesdays with Ms. Lucy Bystrom,
where he gets to be in a smaller group of kids from multiple
kindergarten classes, and there he is more comfortable. Ms. Lucy
says he's the star.
October 31 Arno went to the house of his
kindergarten friend, Zachary, for a play date yesterday afternoon, and
then put on his homemade WALL-E costume for the Kronos
Halloween celebration.
Zachary had worn his Darth Vader costume for their play date. At
Kronos, he saw another boy, about the right size, wearing the same
costume (including the mask), so naturally he thought it was
Zachary. He kept saying, "hello Zachary, hello Zachary!"
September 7 Arno
started Kindergarten on Wednesday. His teacher is Melissa
Gilchrist. Kindergarten is only two and a half hours a day in
Oregon. Arno's been excited about it.
September 1 Arno's
Grandma flew out from Maryland to spend almost a week with us. We
kind of took it easy - we visited the Evergreen Aviation Museum in
McMinnville, and took a rainy day trip to Astoria, where we had
lunch at Baked Alaska and
watched the rain and fog over the Columbia River out the windows.
August 23 Today, Arno earned his orange belt. It seems there
are different taekwondo traditions that put the belts in various
orders, but at Arno's school, this is the third level. However,
Arno's
interest
has
dwindled
in
recent
weeks,
so
we
arranged
to
take
a
break. Maybe he will pick it back up in January.
After all, he has Kindergarten starting shortly, and music class
resumed today, and soon he'll be spending Sunday afternoons at Portland
Chinese School, downtown.
July 16 Today,Arno is an independent reader. He found a book I'd brought
home from the library, Little
Critter's Read-It-Yourself Storybook, and read ninety pages
while Bettina was cooking. Before bedtime, he preferred reading a
Lightning McQueen story to himself over listening to me read Winnie the Pooh.
June 28 Today is
Bettina's birthday. A few days ago, when Arno was making a
birthday card for her, he asked me, "how old is Mama?" "She's a
hundred years old," I responded. His reply: "If she's a hundred
years old, she'll never have another birthday." "Why is
that?" "Because after one hundred years, you can't have any more
birthdays." I'm not sure if he was playing it straight, or making
stuff up to amuse me. No doubt he isn't sure about me, either.
Yesterday, Arno passed his Tae Kwon Do
test to eligible to wear a yellow belt. I really enjoyed watching
not only Arno, but a couple dozen kids take their tests for yellow
belt, orange belt, and green belt. The teacher, George Hristescu,
was
clearly
enjoying
the
kids'
performances,
too.
I
can
see
that
he
is
very attentive and sensitive to the maturing process of Arno and
other students. Bettina has watched every class closely, so she
can go over it with Arno at home, and in this way she has helped him to
perform well, just as she has done with his music class. This
tradition teaches self discipline, self confidence, and respect
for authority and family.
June 15 Arno
finished
music
classes
(until
late
August
starts
them
up
again)
yesterday.
We
also
finished our second time through "Teach Your
Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons", and celebrated with a purchase of a
pullback model of a space shuttle at Piccolo Mondo.
My old friend Barbara, from Ananda School days of yore, whom I haven't
seen for more than ten years, is in town, and I got to introduce her to
Arno and Bettina. Arno was very excited, enthusiastic, and
expressive, eager to tell her everything as quickly as possible about
everything he loves - his favorite movies, his favorite toys,
etc. We all had a happy lunch together at Sweet Tomatoes.
But when it was time for Barbara to leave, he was crestfallen, and
could not bring himself to say goodbye. Arno has been
very hungry for people to talk and especially play with. But Arno
and Bettina made a happy discovery at Fred Meyer today -- they have a
play area, intended to allow parents to leave their children in a
supervised, fun room while the parents shop. Bettina had already
finished her shopping, when Arno saw the space and said he wanted to go
in. So Arno went in and played for an hour while Bettina wandered
the aisles. They intend to go back. But tomorrow, Arno gets
to go to the Children's Museum.
May 5 Due to a
mistake we made (and discovered after all this was over) filling out
Arno's application to Kindergarten, the Beaverton School District
wanted to test Arno's proficiency in English, as if it were his second
language. At home this morning, he said he was happy to be tested
on his English. "I am a good English boy. I am not a good
Chinese boy." But when he actually saw the tester, a kind,
grandfatherly Cantonese American man, something flipped inside, and he
became terribly shy, hiding behind me. They tried to bribe him
with cookies and crackers, and they tried bringing in a woman to
administer the test. I even tried a combination of bribes and
threats, thinking he had control over it, but to no avail. Our
boy, who is so outgoing and expressive in situations where he is
comfortable, could not face being tested by these strangers. I
regret pushing him, now that I see it really was beyond him at the
time. Lesson learned. Then we stopped at Jacob Wismer
School on the way home to get his application form corrected.
April 24 Arno is
trying out Taekwando.
Today
was
his
first
day.
He'd
gone
with
Bettina
to
watch
through
the
window first, and was very excited. When he put on his
uniform today, he could hardly wait to get to class. There is a
strong atmosphere of discipline and respect and physical energy in the
class. We're all very happy with this beginning.
Earlier this month, we decided to stop taking Arno to Prince of Peace
preschool. The teacher had too limited an understanding of, or
love of, much that is important to children. She managed a
two-room space by herself, and generally didn't see what went on in the
other room, and handled conflicts in a crude manner. We're
surprised that Arno lasted as long as he did.
Before that, we had a visit from my uncle Norman and aunt Patti.
We all had a good time, driving up to Seattle, taking the ferry
to Bainbridge
Island, and driving up the Columbia
River Gorge to see Multnomah Falls.
It
was
not
an
easy
trip
for
Norman
to
take,
so
we
appreciate his visit
all the more.
Feb 21 From
Bettina and Arno:
Yesterday, the Lantern Festival was, for me and Arno, the summit
of
Chinese New Year holiday. The weather was very good. After
dinner,
Yar-Ren took us out with his family. He parked his van in
the garage
of the bank where he works. Then we all walked downtown.
Arno
held his mouse lantern. We saw lots of parade, fire works,
lantern
displays, and even a lion dance. Arno was brave enough to
hold a stick
that has fire sparkle (same as we did on July Fourth).
We took some pictures, and Yar-Ren copied all of them onto
a disc for me to bring back to Portalnd. We were very high all
night. We didn't come home until 10:00pm. When we
were in bed, we
could still heard firecrackers and fireworks.
Oh, Arno wants me to tell you about his new friend, a little
chick. Arno named it Chicky-Chicky.
It's yellow with orange feet and an orange beak. It belongs to
Ama. If
you pull Chicky-Chicky's beak, you can open up the lid and put anything
in it. So it's actually a container. Arno likes to put
little toy
tractors and little toy cars in it. Chicky-Chicky is Arno's
favorite
toy this week.
We are going home tomorrow. See you soon!
Feb 20 From Bettina:
Every time Arno and I go to the elementary school, Arno asks
for
Katie. I told him many times that Katie is no longer at the
elementary
school. She is in the middle school now. But Arno didn't
get the
idea. Today, Arno had Mandarin and math lessons in the morning as
usual, and after lunch I took him to Katie's middle school. It
was
about twenty minutes walk. Katie's school is brand new.
Unlike the
elementary school, we're not allowed to go in when they
are having classes. So, we could only watch the school from
outside.
The school building is beautiful, mainly in butter yellow color, with
some bright red, blue, yellow, green as decoration. Katie's
mother,
Mary told me that teachers at that school are excellent. Many
teachers work until late at night to prepare the curriculum.
This is our fourth week in Taiwan. It has finally
stopped raining
and the weather has become warmer. According to the new report,
Taiwan
fish farmers lost about three hundred tons of fish. The weather
was too cold and
lots of fish died. It also happened to vegetables and fruits,
too. Prices have increased as a result.
Arno is happiest between three and six pm because his
cousins come home one after another. My father just left to pick
up
Kai-Kai. Arno is happy. Today is Lantern Festival. My
Mom is busy in
the kitchen now. She is preparing food offerings for the
ancesters in late
afternoon before dinner time. My father has bought each
grandchild
a lantern. Arno's is mouse shpped. This
is the year of the mouse. Kids will have fun holding lanterns in
the
dark tonight.
We'll go home on Saturday. Could you please prepare the
following for Arno?
1. milk
2. string cheese
3. smoothie
4. yogurt
5. bread
6. butter
7. banana
Thanks, and see you soon!
Feb 17 From
Bettina:
Arno's cousins (except A-Bi) all got together to celebrate Arno's
birthday. Nu-Nu brought chocolate, and Arno's favorite, blueberry
chocolate birthday cake. Mei-Huei brought strawberry birthday
cake. Arno preferred the chocolate one. We sang the happy
birthday song and Arno blew out the candle without help. I told
them
to save the birthday presents because my luggage is full. Arno
had a
big slice of cake and milk. After that, we all went to the
elementary
school to play. All the kids were very excited. That was
only the second
time we've been to the school, due to the rain.
Nu-Nu and I took the five kids to the school. We brought
three buckets
and many shovels. Arno and his cousins built sand castles
and drew
pictures in the sand box. Later, they ran, blew bubbles,
played slides
and even climbed a tree. Nu-Nu and I took a walk
around the
playground. I felt good that I finally had some exercise!
We came
home around 5:00pm. I bathed Arno.
After bath, Arno wanted to eat chocolate cake again. I
didn't let
him because it was about dinner time. After dinner, Yar-Ren drove
his
van and took us and his family to see lanterns. The lantern
festival, lunar calendar January 15, which falls on Feb 21 this year,
is
considered the end of Chinese New Year. Due to much more rain
this
year than before, people don't expect to have good business in
lanterns. So, there are not as many stores which display and sell
lanterns as before. We came home around 9:30pm. Arno still
wanted
chocolate cake. I said No. I let him have milk and bread
for snack
instead. I didn't want him to have too much caffeine related food
before bedtime.
This morning, the very first thing Arno said to me was : "I want
my
chocolate cake." Well, this time his wish was granted. I
let him have
milk and the cake. He was happy!
Oh, Janice's mother e-mailed me a happy Chinese New year
card.
She sent the e-mail on Feb 7. I didn't open it up until today
because I
didn't realize it was from her. I replied to her card this
morning. She had attached a picture of Janice and Shawn.
I'll show it
to Arno. I am going to take Arno to see lanterns in the day
time this week,
and tell him about the lantern festival before we head back to the
US.
Feb 15 From Bettina:
Arno enjoys drawing pictures. His cousins come back from
school
starting from 3:00pm. Kai-Kai comes back at 3:00pm;
Ting-Ting,
3:50pm; Katie, 4:00pm and Little 10 4:10pm from Goose Mom.
Usually, my Mom prepares a snack for them, and then they sit at the
coffee
table to do their homework. Since Arno already did his homework
of
Mandarin and math, I let him sit with his cousins, drawing.
Sometimes, you
can tell that he draws a car, a train, a helicopter, a flower, a
fish.
But sometimes his drawing is full of color and you can't tell what that
is. In this case, Kai-Kai said Arno's pictures are Picasso
pictures.
Everyone laughs!
Yesterday evening, Yar-Jen (Katie's daddy) took us out for
dinner. The main course was duck cooked with lots of ginger and
rice
wine. Arno didn't like it. We came home, feeding him rice,
vegetabes
and meat. He was satisfied, then.
Today, my friend Grace Yang came to visit me. She came at
3:00pm,
when my nieces and nephew came back from school one by one. So,
it was
crowded in my parents apartment. Arno still enjoys riding on his
"race
car" in Ama's small apartment. My parents have taught him to
speak some
Taiwanese. He can speak a little bit of Taiwanese with Agong and
Ama.
He is excited that we are going to take the train to visit
Yar-Chuan tomorrow. Yar-Jen will join us after Katie finishes her
piano class at 3:00pm. Then we'll come back to Hsin-Chu
with
Yar-Jen's family at night. It has stopped raining today. We
hope
we'll have good weather this weekend. I hope you have good
weekend,
too.
Feb 13 From Bettina:
My father had a cold and also he hurt his left eye by
rubbing his
eye too hard. The doctor covered his left eye with a band.
We don't think
it's safe for him to ride a motocycle to pick up kids from
school. So,
yesterday my Mom and I and Arno walked to the elementary school to pick
up Ting-Ting and Kai-Kai.
Fortunately, it was not raining. We arrived at the
school. The
first thing Arno spied was a fountain with
a stone snoopy standing in the middle. Little 10 is in first
grade;
Kai-Kai is a fourth grader and Ting-Ting is in fifth. Arno asked
" Where
is Katie?" He had drawn a picture for Katie and he couldn't wait
to
give it to Katie. I told him that Katie is not in the elementary
school anymore. She is in a different school, the middle
school. My Mom sat by the snoopy fountain to wait for Ting-Ting
and
Kai-Kai. Arno and I went to see Little 10. She would go to
Goose
Mom [a popular chain of schools that teach English to Taiwanese
children] after school. The teacher at Goose Mom came to her
school to
pick up their students. We were looking around for Little
10.
Suddenly, someone called loudly : "Arno". It was Little
10. She was
playing in the slide while waiting with other kids for the Goose Mom
teacher. Arno happily joined her on the slide. The teacher
came and
started to collect her students. I went forward to talk with the
teacher. She was nice. She said Little 10 was doing very
well at
Goose Mom and she spoke English very well. After Little 10
left
with the teacher for Goose Mom, Arno and I returned to the Snoopy
fountain. My Mom, Ting-Ting and Kai-Kai were waiting for us
there. We
walked home together.
Arno was happy with cousins around. My Mom brought an old
scooter
for Arno to ride on. Arno insisted that it was a race car.
Of couse,
he rode very fast and made a lot of loud noise. Due to the rain,
he
couldn't ride it outside. He managed to ride it fast in my
parents'
apartment. He told my Mom : "Ama, your home is too
small." My Mom
laughed. My Mom needed to pick up Little 10 from Goose
Mother at
4:00pm. Arno quickly hid his "race car" in my Mom's room.
He didn't
want to share his "race car" with Little 10. Little 10
came home.
Arno told her : " You can not come into Ama's room. You can
only go
to other rooms." This made Little 10 wanted to see
what's inside Ama's
room. She found out soon, of course. Then, as you can
imagine, there's
an argument about who can ride on that scooter. I told them
to take turns
and share. Arno got to rid
e on the "race car" first. Little 10 counted from 1 to 50.
Then, it was
Arno's turn. He had to count to 50, too. Arno was
fussy and refused
to count. I said : " If you don't count, Little 10 can ride on
the
race car forever. You are waisting your time." So,
reluctantly he
started to count. Katie was the last one to come
home. She has
been very nice and patient to Arno. Arno went to her arms
when
he argued with Little 10 and was upset. Actually,
Little 10 is nice
to him. But somehow, Arno just doesn't like to share
anything with her.
We read Frog and Toad stories last night at bedtime. I found
a Frog
and Toad book in both English and Mandarin at a book store. I
read
both English and Mandarin to him.
Feb 11 From
Bettina:
We spent one week living with Nu-Nu's family. Arno was
really
happy and got along very well with everyone. At
first, Kai-Kai was not happy to share toys with Arno because he needed
to clean up. I told Arno to put toys back after he was done with
them. Then, Kai-Kai and Arno were both happy with each
other.
Ting-Ting read to Arno almost every night on bed. Due to the
rain, we
didn't go out much, but the kids had fun and watched some movies, like
:
Ratatouille, Ice Age, Open Season ............ all in Mandarin.
Oh, I forgot to tell you that when Arno met A-Bi the first
time,
he brought his blanket to A-Bi and said :" I want to give my Xiao
Bai-Bai to A-Bi." Everyone was surprised. We moved to
stay with
Nu-Nu's family for one week. Arno was OK without his blanket
when we
stayed with Nu-Nu, until the last day. He woke up and said : " I
want my Xiao Bai-Bai." I guess he is not ready to give up his
blanket
yet. They all know that Arno doesn't like to
eat. To everyone's
surprise, one night when Ting-Ting asked Arno if he wanted to eat
potato chips, Arno was willing to try, and then he ate one chip
after
another. Arno lost a tooth on Feb 9. I was brushing his
teeth before
bedtime. He cried. I saw blood on the tooth brush and then
he started
to bleed. Nu-Nu gave me a clean cloth to let Arno bite
tight. Arno
stopped bleeding. He was in my arms about twenty minutes.
He needed me to
comfort him. Ting-Ting and Kai-Kai watched all this.
Kai-Kai told
Arno : " I think you have cried enough."
We moved back to my parents' place last night because everyone
needs to go back to work and school today. Katie and Little 10
were
jealous because we didn't stay with them this time. Since
most of my
families resume work and school, I was thinking of going back to the US
one
week early, but they all persuaded me to stay. Katie and
Ting-Ting
cried when I said I wanted to go back early. Ya-Chuan invited us
to
his rental home in central Taiwan this weekend. We are going to
take
the train to Fong-Yuen and Ya-Chuan will pick us up at the train
station.
Arno is feeling bored this morning because all his cousins are at
school. The temperature this morning is only eight degrees
Centigrade. My parents
didn't want me to take Arno out for fear of catching cold. Oh, I
wish
the dry and sunny weather would come soon.
Feb 7 From Bettina:
Last night was Chinese New Year eve. My family ate at a
restaurant. There was a live band. Arno wanted to run when
he heard
fast tempo music. I took him to an open area and let him
run. Little
10 joined him. She cut in and ran in front of Arno. Arno
was angry
and pushed her. I told Arno not to push her again and I told
Little 10
that Arno was angry because she cut in. Arno always wants to be
the
first when he runs. When playing with Kai-Kai, he always
wants to be
the winner. If he isn't, he cries. He didn't have
problems with
Katie and Ting-Ting because they let him have his way. I
think we
need to take this seriously and figure out a way to teach him the
correct
attitude about winning. Arno had this kind of problem at
YMCA and
Prince of Peace, too.
As usual, he received a lot of red envelopes for Chinese New
Year.
We moved to Nu-Nu's home. Arno was very happy. He
played hard
with Kai-Kai and Ting-Ting. They like to sleep late.
Arno would
climb onto their bed and wake them up in the morning. He watched
them
play the piano. Then they played with legos. After lunch,
today
Ya-Chuan, Sasha and A-Bi came to visit. A-Bi puts everything in
his
mouth. So, we put the legos away. Ya-Chuan is a very
popular uncle. All the kids like him. He played with Arno,
too. He saw
Arno's red underwear and said: "Oh, you are
Superman." Arno
didn't know that Superman in the movie wears red underwear.
But when
the bath time came, I asked him to take off his pants. He saw his
own
red underwear. He said: "Superman!".
The weather is still cold and wet. Luckily with Kai-Kai and
Ting-Ting's company, Arno is very happy. After dinner, Nu-Nu's
husband, Hua-Wei decided that we needed to take the kids out of the
house. So, he drove and took everyone to a shopping
place. We bought
milk, smoothies, cheese, fruit, crackers, cookies and everyone got a
cup
of ice cream as a treat. If it wasn't for the rain, we would have
had more
fun going to other places instead of a shopping mall.
Arno is absorbing more and more Mandarin and even Taiwanese.
Feb 4 More from Bettina:
Nu-Nu and Hua-Wei have taken us to restaurants twice so
far. Arno
ate very well, although he still needed me to feed him, but he no
longer
insisted "just rice", like last year.
The weather in Taiwan this winter is very different from last
year. It was warm and sunny last year. This year however is
very wet
and cold. During our first week in Taiwan, we only got out of the
house 4 times because Arno was sick and it has been raining. Two
times
to restaurants with Nu-Nu's family and the other two times to the book
store and the elementary school nearby. Arno has recovered.
But I
seem to have caught something, and am I have a stuffy nose.
I coach the kids with their homework in the mornings. Arno
has been
learning Mandarin phonics and math. He can write some
Mandarin
phonics, recognizes some Mandarin words and does addition and
subtraction.
He doesn't resist doing his homework in the mornings. I guess
it's
because all his cousins do homework with him.
I took Arno and all kids to the elementary school nearby. Due to
the rain, we have been staying at home most of the time. Today,
the
rain seemed to have a break. So, I took all the kids to the
playground at the nearby elementary school. They were all very
excited. After we came home, it started to rain again! We
considered
ourselves lucky. We made grilled cheese sandwiches for snack,
again.
Arno is speaking more and more Mandarin. Last year his
favorite
playmate was Ting-Ting. This year he likes Kai-Kai the
best. Kai-Kai
is not as patient as Ting-Ting, though. When Arno insists on his
game,
Kai-Kai will play with hi but he gets tired of "little boy's game"
very soon and pretends that he is sleepy and needs a nap to
escape. Often, Arno likes to lead the game and set the
rules.
Katie and Ting-Ting are very patient with him and let Arno have his
way.
Kai-Kai won't. So, you'll see Arno pouting when he plays
with
Kai-Kai. Little 10 likes to pretend that she is little mommy to
Arno.
She would fill up Arno's water cup and feed him. She even wants
to
wipe Arno's bottom after he poops. I stop her. I want Arno
to do as
much as he can.
Overall speaking, Arno is happy here with his cousins.
Jan 31 More news from Bettina:
Arno is much, much better and has a better appetite
now. He
had a hair cut yesterday. The hairdresser said Arno was very
cute. She
gave Arno a big apple.
Arno has been very enthusiastic about drawing pictures. He
likes
to sit at the coffee table with his cousins and draw. They are
very imaginative. Since he has almost
completely recovered from his cold, we started doing writing and math
homework
in the mornings. He practices Mandarin phonics and
addition. We
missed little 10's piano class on Tuesday because we still have jet lag
and are very sleepy at dinner time. Little 10's piano class is at
8:00pm Tuesdays.
It's been raining since we arrived in Taiwan. We can't go
outside
to play. Still, Arno has fun playing, drawing pictures, eating,
and singing with his cousins. Yesterday, I made grilled
cheese sandwiches for
all the kids. My nieces and nephew never had grilled cheese
sandwich
before. They like it! In fact, they asked me to let
them make the
sandwiches themselves. They all enjoyed making the sandwiches and
eating them. Today, they wanted the sandwiches again. So,
we went through the
process again.
Did I enjoy taking care of A-Bi? Yes, I did. But
I was also
exhausted because he is a very active baby. What I
liked most is
feeding A-Bi. He is a good eater. He eats faster than
Arno. I wish
Arno would eat faster so I don't need to spend one hour a meal to feed
him.
Jan 29, 2008 Bettina and Arno are in Taiwan. Here is
news from Bettina:
It's been four days since we arrived in Taiwan. Arno and I
haven't
completely adjusted to the local time yet. Arno is much better now from
the bad cold and the exhaustion of the long and delayed flight. Most of
the
time, he refuses to sleep at daytime, even though he hasn't gotten over
the
jet lag and is very sleepy. Yesterday, Ting-Ting volunteered to
take
Arno to bed and napped with him.
Due to the rain and Arno's cold, we haven't gone out to play
yet.
However, Arno had a good time with his cousins in my parents' small
apartment. Yesterday, they played "Hide & Seek" and "Simon
Says".
Then, Arno said: "Let's play a new game." He explained to cousins
that
he was going to hide a toy car and they needed to find it. Most
of
the time, they were excited, laughing. Still, they were able to
calm down
and do different things. When I helped my Mom to cook dinner, all the
children sat at the coffee table and drew. Arno drew a picture of
fish. He said, "big fish chases little fish.". He
also drew a picture
of flowers and another picture of cars. It seemes to me that his
drawing skill has improved. Kai-Kai and Little 10 were both very good
at drawing pictures. Katie and Ting-Ting worked
on their homework.
Ya-Chuan's son, A-Bi is a very happy and active baby. He
smiles a
lot. Last weekend, Ya-Chuan and Sasha had to attend a
wedding party.
Nu-Nu and I volunteered to look after A-Bi. He made me and Nu-Nu
exhausted. When we smelled poop, we brought him to the bedroom to
change. He was so active, we needed help from Katie and Ting-Ting
to pin A-Bi down so we could change his diaper. Ya-Chuan's
family leaves for central Taiwan on Sunday evening.
They leave A-Bi
with a babysitter on weekdays. My parents hope that Ya-Chuan
can find
a job in Hsin-Chu and move back to Hsin-Chu so that they can
see A-Bi
every day.
Dec 16 During
toothbrushing this morning, Arno lost a tooth - his third, but it's been a year
since he lost the first two. He cried miserably, and we assumed
he was afraid for some reason, but he kept on crying, and after some
fifteen or twenty minutes, he told us, repeatedly, that his tooth hurt,
so we gave him some (children's) Motrin. He calmed down, and then
cheered up, some time after that, about when you would expect the
Motrin to kick in. So I guess he really did get a toothache from
that experience.
Then he was happy for hours, anticipating Daniel's playdate
visit. We know Daniel from music class. He is a dreamy,
inward, gentle kid, just three months older than Arno. His
parents are from Bulgaria. The boys had a good time, and both
want to do it again. The only conflict was that Arno wanted to
take charge and set an agenda for both of them, and Daniel had his own
ideas about what toys he wanted to play with. Overall, Arno was
more interested in relating, in playing with someone, and Daniel was
more interested in playing with the toys.
After the visit, all evening, Arno was subdued. I asked him after
dinner if his tooth hurt, and he said it did. Hmm.
Nov 25 Last
night we went to a party hosted by Josephine, who organizes a tai chi
group in the neighborhood. There were other children there, but the
youngest of them was nine years old. Arno was very excited to go
to a party, and enthusiastically got acquainted with the other
children. He has a get-acquainted patter which he delivers with
confidence - "I'm Arno, what's your name? I'm four years
old. How old are you?"
They played with him for a while, and seemed to be enjoying it, but at
some point they must have decided they had humored him long enough,
because he looked up from the toys that had been occupying him
momentarily, to discover that the other kids were nowhere in
sight. He called out, "Everyone! Where are you?" and looked
around fruitlessly. Some time later, they appeared in a bunch,
and he asked them, "where were you guys? I looked all over for
you!" They had no answer, only guilty faces.
Later, we were treated to live classical
Chinese
chamber
music. Arno was quite still and attentive for
the first piece, but started getting restless after a while, so we left
before the concert was over.
Nov 24
We used Harry
and
the
Lady
Next
Door yesterday for Arno's first reading
lesson since
completing the
100 Easy Lessons last month. He read the first
chapter, and then wanted
to keep going, but his ability to focus dropped considerably, so I
read the rest of the book to him. Later in the day, he wanted it
again. He keeps improvising variations on “Harry almost bit the
lady's leg, but he bit the piano's leg instead.” Oh, it doesn't
hurt that the Bark,
George...
and
More
Doggie
Tails DVD has a Harry story in it.
Kipper is a
big favorite now. We like the smooth, jazzy music and the sweet,
gentle tone and the stories of friendship and play.
Arno is sometimes drawn to
books intended for children younger than himself, too. Frequently he
picks something from the board books area of the library, especially
(but not only) Spot books. However, once we get these board books
home, they don't compete well with the more developed stories.
Our neighborhood Bethany
library has a little “find Spot” hide and seek game going on,
modeled after the book Where's
Spot?.
Arno
loves
to
find
where
Spot
is
hiding
this
time,
and
get
a
stamp on his
hand when he has succeeded.
Nov 3 In the
weeks leading up to Halloween, it looked like Arno wasn't going to
participate. We looked at costumes and pictures of costumes, and
he rejected them all. He didn't even want to be Buzz
Lightyear. I was a little surprised, and I wondered if he would
change his mind on Halloween night, when it was too late, but I was
also happy to see him make his own decision about this optional social
custom.
Then, a few days before Halloween, he started wearing the Mickey Mouse
hat that his Aunt Linda and Uncle Roger had given him when we were all
at Disney World last year. (He had refused to wear it
then.) Bettina saw an opening, and assembled a matching suit out
of black and red clothes in the closet. Voila, litte Mickey.
My employer, Kronos, put on an afternoon Halloween celebration for
kids, and Bettina brought Arno. After trick-or-treating garnered
him about five pieces of candy, he said, "I have a lot of candy
now. Let's go home." But we urged him onward - I wanted to
let more of my friends at work see him - and he got into the routine,
though still saying "let's go home" now and then. He got a nifty
orange noise-making stick as well as lots of candy (which would get
recycled out to other trick-or-treaters that night). However, he
would not enter the Haunted Hallway (which was pretty spooky for a
little kid, so I think he made the right decision there), and he didn't
want to go into the open party area, where music was playing and
costumed adults were trying to entice him in. All in all, a good
time.
At dinner time, he got his costume wet, so Bettina decided he didn't
need to go trick-or-treating in the neighborhood, in the cold and
dark. He loved seeing the kids who came to our door, and he
wanted to show them all his noisy stick and his bouncy ball. At
first, he tried showing them after they got their candy, but usually
they were not interested in hanging around to watch. So Bettina
had the brilliant idea of switching the order of events. First
they had to watch Arno's tricks, then they got the candy treats.
That worked like a charm. One time, Arno urged a group of
children to come in and play with him. Later, he said he wanted
to go trick or treating, but acquiesced readily when we said he'd
already done that at my office.
Oct 28 Arno finished Teach
Your
Child
to
Read
in
100
Easy
Lessons
today. By way of celebration, I
gave him a Mega
Bloks
Mack
&
McQueen.
He had been looking forward to this for a few weeks. The intro to
the 100 Lessons book says it takes the learner to second grade reading
level, but I'd say Arno isn't really at that level, because his
language isn't developed to the level of a second grader. Bettina
recommends we start over and do the book again, to build confidence and
consolidate the skills. We'll take a break for a while and just
read stories. Then, maybe at some point, we'll go back to, say,
Lesson 50 and read through the second half of the book again.
Oct 27 Arno
changed preschools again. The YMCA day care moved Miss Michelle
over to the Kindergarten class. No doubt, they really needed her
there, but that meant that Arno had lost both of the highly talented
teachers who had drawn us to the YMCA to begin with. We started
to wonder if Arno, who will be five years old in February, could just
transfer to Michelle's class.
Michelle was willing, but Linda was not. Linda got very defensive
and
said some things that weren't true, which Bettina exposed as untrue on
the spot.
L: "We don't take half time in Kindergarten."
B: "But I see different kidsin there in the morning, compared to the
afternoon."
L: "The Kindergarten class is full."
B: "But I only see four kids there in the morning."
L: "Half time Kindergarten is too expensive."
B: "Can I see the fee schedule?" (L reluctantly pulls out the fee
schedule. Half time K costs significantly less than half time
pre-K.)
It ended with Linda saying she would have to perform an assessment on
Arno, and that she would charge us full time even if he only went half
time. After that, Bettina started calling, and visiting, other
schools.
So, at the beginning of the month, Arno started afternoons at Prince of
Peace Lutheran
Preschool. It was a bit of a risk, considering that he was
still doing
OK at YMCA, for the time being at least, whereas another new
school
could turn out to be another place where he never learns a sense of
belonging. But Bettina wanted badly to leave YMCA after that
horrible conversation with Linda. POP costs about a third of what
YMCA cost us,
which is nice. (The facility is on church grounds, so I guess
they
don't have a big rent expense.) I'm not keen about the religious
element, as you may guess. I certainly expect him to get exposed
to,
and become somewhat familiar with, Christianity, at some point in his
life, but I would prefer it to be a few years later, when we can have
more sophisticated discussions about it.
Arno's new teacher, Mrs. McCormick, has an old fashioned style, yelling
at kids when she thinks they've done something wrong, and not letting
them leave the table to go play until they have finished their
projects. Almost every day, Arno brings home a few worksheets
and/or art projects. I think it would not have worked out this
well, if Arno had not had several months with Miss Michelle at the YMCA
first, but at this point, it seems to be working out.
There was an incident the other day where Mrs. McCormick wanted him to
pick something up, and he
wouldn't do it. Bettina asked him about it afterwards, and Arno
told
her, "because I did not make the mess." Bettina taught him, the
next
time something like that happens, he can say, "I did not make the mess,
but I can help." The next day, when Bettina brought Arno to
class, he
went up to the teacher and said, "I do not like you." That night,
Bettina told him, "even if you don't like her, you don't need to say
that to
her. If you say that to her, then maybe she will not be nice to
you."
The next day, when Bettina was picking him up,
he asked Mrs. McCormick for a goodbye hug. (The good YMCA
teachers
were really big on goodbye hugs.)
Lately he's gotten into stuffed animals
(which he calls "pets"), and they are the main feature in our evening
play. He loves to repeat a play routine over and over
again. The big
thing for about a week was, he holds Elmer the Elephant, and I hold
Panda, and we go
to "the playground." First, we go on "the slide" - the stairway
railing. Elmer and Panda slide down, going "whee!" and at the
bottom,
say "that was a lot of fun!" Then we slide across "the ice" - the
hardwood floor by the front door. Then we do "the tunnel", where
we
pass the pets back and forth in a musical ritual. He adored this
game
and was always very disappointed when I decided I'd had
enough. Then, the other night, he created a new routine,
which starts with the pets falling down the stairs, going "ruck, ruck,
ruck" all the way down, then "OUCH!" and "blap!" at the bottom, then
"ding, ding, ding" as they climb back up to do it all again.
After a few cycles of this, then the pets play hide and seek. It
never takes long to find the one who is hiding, because either the
hider giggles aloud, or some other toy approaches the seeker and
informs on the hider.
Aug 31 Arno's
grandma is with us for a week. We enjoyed picking her up at the
airport, and Arno loves the toy panda she brought him. He even
started wearing the matching panda hat. That's the first new hat
he's accepted in years. It's about time, too, because his head is
almost too big for the Thomas hat now. Today, Arno, Bettina and
Grandma went to the Children's Museum. Arno has been eagerly
awaiting this trip. Tomorrow morning, we get up early to take the
Amtrak train to Seattle.
Aug 27 preschool
note: "Arno is having fun creating structures by himself.
He is having a tough time with Victor. They are often found
pushing each other and getting into each other's way on purpose.
Who knows where this is coming from, but we are encouraging the use of
words and solving this on their own." --Karen.
I asked Arno about Victor. "Is he a nice boy?" "Yes."
"Did Victor push you?" "No." "I thought Victor pushed
you." So, maybe Arno and Victor are horsing around in a way that
really isn't a problem for Arno. Or maybe he just doesn't want
parental involvement in the issue.
Aug 26 We all went for a
three mile hike in Forest Park, mostly along Balch Creek. This
was a big step forward into enjoying walks in the woods together.
Everyone was tired but happy at the end.
Aug 23 preschool note:
"Arno showed how to take apart his Towmater truck so they would know
how to do it. Unfortunately, he chose not to listen to me and his
friends when asked to stop doing something. He lost his outside
time as a consequence." --Karen
Aug 18 notes from
Bettina:
Here are some milestones for Arno's development.
1. Eye Discharge
Arno had eye discharge ever since he was two weeks
old. His left eye cleared up very soon but the right eye would
have a discharge every now and then, especially when he was sick.
The doctor said it was because his right tear duct was narrow. As
he grew, the tear duct would widen, too and the eye discharge problem
would be gone. Arno's right eye finally completely cleared three
weeks before he turned three. Even when he is sick, we no longer
see the discharge in his right eye.
2. Pacifier
The nurse gave Arno a pacifier after he was born and we
were still in the hospital. After that, it was hard to take the
pacifier away from him when he wanted to sleep. I tried to wean
him from the pacifier. My Mom told me to put a little bit of
chili on the pacifier so as to scare him away. He hated that but
still demanded the pacifier. It was until three weeks before he
turned three (the same time when the problem of eye discharge was
gone), when he accepted life without it.
3. Potty Training
I started to train him when he was almost three.
Then I realized that most of the preschools required that children
needed to be potty trained. I wish I had known that
earlier. Because Arno was not potty trained yet, we had very
limited choices in selecting a preschool for him. I was told to
take him to the toilet every two hours. I tried that, but Arno
still peed and pooped in his pants several times a day. He seemed
not to be ready yet and I was very frustrated and worried. I
worried that I would never get him to good schools because he was not
potty trained. Not until he was three and a half, was he
comfortable to use the potty during the day. At night he still
needed diapers. Surprisingly, when he turned four, he didn't need
to wear diapers at night! My friends' children at Arno's age were
potty trained before they turned three, but they still need diapers
even though many of them are already four and a half. Last night,
Arno had eight oz milk and two cups of water before bed
time. I thought he would have wetted the bed.
Instead, he woke up at twelve midnight and went to the toilet by
himself! I am proud of you, Arno.
Aug 10 preschool
note: "On the playground, Arno was drawing with the chalk. He was
telling me that he was making a stop sign and pink flamingos. We
are still working on the pushing to the front of the line, but handling
it better when we ask him to stop." - Karen.
Arno's YMCA preschool had a family potluck today. Karen told me
that Arno has impressive skills in verbally communicating how he
feels. "I am angry!" "I am very sad!" This is unusual
in a four year old boy.
Aug 9 preschool note: "Arno was given the task of not
pushing ahead with Sam and if Ms. Michelle had to ask him to stop, he
was sent to the back of the line. He didn't like it, but on the
way back he didn't push or want to 'win'!" - Karen.
I asked Arno about this. "Why did the teacher make you go to the
back of the line?" "Because she said I have to be the
caboose." That certainly broke the momentum, as I had to laugh
for a while. Apparently, he is applying his Golden Book story, The
Little
Red
Caboose,
who was sorry he always had to be the last car on the train. We
have been using the story from Cars
(Widescreen
Edition) to reinforce the effort.
"Chick Hicks always bumps other cars to get ahead. Don't be like
Chick Hicks. Nobody likes Chick Hicks."
Aug 7 preschool note: "Arno has become so
comfortable! He is full of smiles and he is expanding his
friendship circle. Although he still prefers Lele he plays with
others too! Yeah!! :-) - Michelle
and a note from Karen: "Arno had a good morning until the walk
back from the field trip. He kept pushing his friends to get
ahead of Ms. Michelle. He eventually was sent to the back of the
line. Arno wanted to 'win.'"
Aug 6 We're in
the midst of that four-year-old phase where a child moves playfully -
it's not enough to walk purposefully; there are many other body parts,
like arms and head, that can get creative along the way. Arno is
carefully and correctly constructing more complex sentences with
subordinate clauses. ("I asked Daddy to bring the Island of Sodor
train track box to me, so I can play Island of Sodor.") He is
persistent and urgent when he wants
something. He's gotten interested in dogs, boats, and
water. More than ever, he likes to hear or watch a story over and
over again, and explicitly identifies himself with a character, and
usually assigns roles to his parents, too. This weekend, at the
library, he picked out Baby
Duck's
New
Friend. In two days, he's had us read it to
him at least a dozen times, and he's
acted it out just as often, with and without us, with and without
props.
preschool note: "Arno said he loves mac and cheese when I put it
on his plate and started eating it right away. He didn't eat
much, but definitely a start!" --Karen
Aug 3 preschool note:
"Arno was a huge fan of Hungry
Hungry
Hippos
. He played with
Victor for most of the morning. He even was able to play two
hippos at the same time! Arno showed great sharing and
sportsmanship." --Karen
Aug 2 preschool note: "Arno had his groove on today when
he
sang 'Yellow Submarine' to the group when he showed us his
submarine. He also boogied down when the "Little Mermaid"
soundtrack. He is really breaking out of his shell." -KMR
Aug 1 preschool note: "Arno had a lot of fun playing outside
during water play! He didn't get too wet but still had
fun!"
-Ms. Jennifer
Jul 31 preschool note: "Arno had a great day, but
had a hard time keeping his body to himself. He hit a few
children and even pushed another child not with the YMCA on the field
trip. We talked about not being okay to hurt our friends."
Jul 30 preschool note: "Arno had a great day bark playing
with Susand and Lele. They did so much imagination play
pretending to be animals and doing things in the home area." -KMR
Jul 18 preschool note: "During circle time, Arno taught us a
new song, the 'Rain, Rain, Go Away' song. He even got up in front
of the group to sing it again. It is something great to add all
of our friends' names." -KMR
Jul 17 preschool note: "Arno was talkative during
group time! I missed yesterday when he constantly raised his hand
and had lots to say. He has been telling me to listen to his
words, which is something we are trying to get him to do and tell him
that when his friends ask him to stop."
Jul 16 preschool note: "Today during circle time Arno did a
wonderful job raising his hand and told us a very good story abut going
to the park with his dad and playing on the slides. He talked a
lot! :) At lunch Michelle was trying to encourage him to eat and
try his food and he said, 'I will wait til Mom gets here!'" - Ms. Jamie
Jul 11 preschool note: "Arno had a good day. When I asked
him not to spray other people without a spray bottle and he said,
'Don't be silly.' I am not sure how to take that. He is
slowly coming into his own." -KMR
Jun 17 Arno
started started off the day wishing me a happy Father's Day and handing
me a card with a picture of a lawn mower and a sound chip that delivers
an impressive lawn mower engine sound when you open it. We had a
good laugh over that.
After our usual Sunday pancake breakfast (chocolate chips in Arno's, of
course), we went to Learning Palace and got lower case refrigerator
magnets, a pre-K workbook, a smock, and some paints. Arno was
having so much fun with the trains and trucks on display, he couldn't
get over being made to leave until we got home. (He kept quiet,
because he knew I'd change the CD in the car from his choice to my
choice, if he fussed audibly.)
After lunch, we went to REI, where I hoped to persuade a skeptical wife
and son that a trailer bike
was a good idea. I wanted to be able to go for a bike ride, get
exercise, with Arno's active participation. But they were right;
Arno is not ready for that. So we looked at the bicycles
there. Arno was immediately drawn to a 12 inch blue tricycle, which was the
right size for him, but I was reluctant to get him a tricycle rather
than a bicycle. He was unwilling to try out any of the bicycles,
until we showed him that the red bicycle had a bell
on the handlebars, and bees painted on the frame. But this 16
inch bike was too big for him, and the only 12 inch bikes there were
pink and white structures he wouldn't touch. I almost held out
for shopping around at other places, but chances were Arno would remain
attached to his first choice anyway, so the blue pony came home with
us, and the planned "walk in the wild woods" was postponed so Arno
could immediately enjoy his new wheels.
When Bettina and Arno returned from trike riding at Jacob Wismer
Elementary, she handed him off to me for our much anticipated hike on Wildwood Trail
in Forest
Park. This was Arno's second time there, and he had a
foreseeable agenda - see a stream, and sit on a log. We had just
a little bit of a stream, thanks to some rains this past week - enough
to toss rocks in and get splashes. Oh, that was funny!
Hikers heard us laughing far down the trail. Arno was also happy
to meet several dogs. Of one couple, he asked, "where did they
come from? Where are they going?" He got to feed one puppy
a bone-shaped dog biscuit. He was eager to see them, but not to
touch them. Sitting on the log at the parking area was an
occasion to pretend we were riding a train, just as Little
Bear and Owl
pretended that their log was a boat.
It was a big day. We were all tired and grumpy at the end of it.
Jun 9 Arno's reading
lessons are starting to shift out of the textbook. This week he
worked on The
Cat
in
the
Hat a couple nights. I gave him as
little help as possible for the first fifteen pages, and then read the
rest of the book to him. We watched the movie with Mike Meyers last night, but
didn't care for it much. Too raucous. Well, it's kind of a
raucous story, isn't it? But still, as an evening movie
experience, it felt too frenetic and nervous. We would have liked
to be soothed, I think.
He got a big kick out of Big
Truck
And
Little
Truck
. Sometimes he asks me to join him in acting out scenes from the
story; sometimes he asks me to read it, but to substitute "Daddy" and
"Arno" for the main characters.
One of his two teachers at YMCA, Miss Valerie, is moving on to other
things. We're sorry to see her go - she's a vibrant, passionate,
early childhood professional, who did a lot for Arno in just a few
weeks. Arno made her a card.
We sold the Burley
Bee bicycle trailer via Craigslist
yesterday.
Arno wasn't really ready to part with it, even though he rarely asked
to ride in it. But he handled it pretty well. "I will miss
my trailer," he said. The whole family came to try it out.
Two little girls got in side by side, and came back with big smiles on
their faces. I'd like to get a trailer bike (it's like a bicycle
that doesn't have a front wheel, but instead, attaches to the back of
an adult bike), but apparently, Bettina got injured pretty badly on one
when she was small, so she doesn't trust them. Arno himself has
shown no interest in riding any kind of bicycle for the past year.
May 26 Arno's had four
weeks at YMCA Child Care. During this time, he's blossomed
rapidly. His speaking vocabulary is more varied and colorful; he
moves more energetically and playfully; all around, he is happier, even
at home. He is more expressive and assertive in his Saturday
music classes.
Apr 29 The three
of us went for a walk on Wildwood Trail in Forest Park today.
This was our first walk in the woods that didn't feel like Daddy was
dragging along a reluctant family. We made Arno walk
behind me and ahead of her. "When you're five years old," I told
him, "you can walk in front of me." He especially liked the little streams. He made
a special point of sitting down beside the stream - possibly acting out
something he'd seen in one or another adaptation of "Wind in the
Willows." He also liked putting his hands into the cold running
water, and going back and forth to look at both ends of the culvert
that carried the stream under the trail. At the parking spot,
logs were a big attraction. He was quite grumpy about being
brought back into the car before he was done playing. Bettina was
nervous, but she liked the walk, too. There were many
wildflowers, including blooming trillium and vanillaleaf, and we saw
some wild ginger.
Apr 28 We got
almost halfway through the Teach
Your
Child
to
Read
in
100
Easy
Lessons program. We finished Lesson 48
with this text: "the old man was cold. he did not have a hat or a
coat or socks. so he got a goat with lots of hats and coats and
socks. now the old man is not cold. and the goat is not
cold." (Capital letters, aside from the word "I", are not used
until lesson 82.) At this point, Arno was struggling with the
recent introduction of many alternate pronunciations of letters - when
he saw an 'o', he would try to compromise between the sound of "goat"
and the sound of "got" by saying "go-aht"; "or" would come out sounding
like "are". (Long and short 'a' sounds were not as much of a
problem for him.) "Was," "said," "to," "of," "nose," and "has"
all
came in too rapid succession. Arno's enthusiasm for his daily
lessons shifted to resistance. He commented that the letters used
to be bigger. (This is true - they reduce the font size
gradually.)
So we backed up. The past two nights, we did Lessons 35 and
36. These are easy for him and he enjoys them. We'll just
work our way forward, lesson by lesson, from there. In a couple
weeks, we'll reach the midpoint, and I hope the review will have made
the difference.
The text in Lesson 36: "I am a log. I can not run. I
can not sit on an ant. an ant will sit on me."
Bettina does music lessons with Arno, based on the classes I take him
to on Saturdays. He can play some simple melodies on the
keyboard, reading from the sheet music. He also likes Bettina to
play a note behind his back and have him name the note by ear.
We have been getting a lot of bed time laughs out of Moo
Cow
Kaboom!. This is a boisterous tale of a cow
being abducted by aliens - or rather, an alien - space cowboy
Zorg. "Whoopie ti yi yo, git along, little zorkies," Zorg says;
and so does Arno, over and over again, relishing the poetry. No
animals are hurt in the telling of this tale. Another recent hit
here is Go
Away,
Dog
(My
First
I
Can
Read). Some of these books aimed at early
readers land just right on Arno's ear with their simple language.
It's kind of the opposite of Moo
Cow
Kaboom! or of William Steig, so far as the approach to language
goes, but each seems to appeal in its own way. Arno also
keeps asking me to read Bad
Dog
School,
about a family fine-tuning their mutt's behavior.
We have a sizable collection of children's books in Chinese, which
Bettina had shipped from Taiwan. Arno mostly asks Bettina to read
them to him, but once in a while, he'll try me out. We can look
at the pictures and talk about them together.
Apr 22 Arno will
change schools on May 1. Many incidents at his present school
added up to a picture of teachers who don't care very much about the
children. What's more, Arno, who used to be happy to go to this
school, has been showing some resistance recently. From what we
could see, he was generally not participating in any of the activities,
and the teachers were doing nothing to draw him in. There was
also the matter of having the children play outside first thing in the
morning, even when the weather was questionable. Bettina found
Arno out there once, with his jacket on wrong, each arm in the wrong
sleeve, so his back was unprotected. The teachers hadn't even
noticed. They didn't appear to notice, either, when one child was
mean to another and made the second one cry.
My teammate at work told me about the local YMCA Child Care.
Bettina visited it and found very warm, engaged teachers and happy
children. She took Arno there the next day, and he loved
it. He wanted to change schools right away.
We've encountered several different adaptations of Kenneth Grahame's The
Wind
in
the
Willows and the characters have just entered
into Arno's role-playing fantasies. Normally he is a jeep, or an
airplane, or an automobile, but today he announced that he was Toad and
I was Mole.
Apr 8 Easter was, like
last year, mainly about eggs. Dying them was great fun.
Finding them hidden around the living room was great fun. Peeling
them was great fun. Arno also like the card he got from his
Grandma. This is the first card he's paid much attention
to. He kept track of it for a few days.
Mar 17 We're
doing about six reading lessons a week. The practice is reshaping
the father-son relationship, not without some pain. I do think
Arno is old enough to participate seriously in daily fifteen-minute
tutorials, but it's a bit of a discipline for him. He enjoyed the
first few lessons, when I allowed him to be goofy and scattered, but
when I started to require focus and straight answers from beginning to
end (ten minutes), he decided he didn't want to do it any more.
But that isn't an option. He was mad at me for a couple
days. Since then, he became more forgiving, but he still protests
before we begin each lesson.
So far as acquiring the reading skills goes, he does quite well.
Skills encountered so far include:
the primary one of
interpreting a letter as a sound
going back and forth between a series of slowly enunciated sounds
and a normal-paced word
reading a sequence of letters from left to right as an
uninterrupted series of sounds, then as a word
not pronouncing silent letters
reading a series of words from left to right
using single letters as initial sounds in rhyming words
This last, "rhyming," is the most troublesome for Arno, and I don't
know why it is taught. When he sees "m" on the page, he just
wants to say "mmmm", not "meet", even after being prepared to "rhyme
with eet". Aside from this, he tends to sound each letter with a
little stop between them, "mmm aaa t" instead of "mmmaaat".
He caught on to silent letters (visually cued in these lessons by
printing them smaller than the pronounced ones) immediately. This
is also a chance to correct his pronunciation of some words. (He
has naturally adopted some Taiwanese accent, such as dropping the final
consonant sound, especially "n", from many words, and pronouncing
"d" as an unvoiced dental.) It's a bit tricky to pronounce and
hear the short "i" as a stand-alone sound, and "th" he can only
approximate.
For story time, we've been getting a lot of mileage out of
The
Good
Little
Bad
Little
Pig
by Margaret Wise Brown. The visual style, evocative of the 50's
and early 60's, is familiar to us because we already know and
love illustrator Dan Yaccarino's work from Trashy
Town. Arno also asks for repeat
reads of The
Big
Trip by Valeri Gorbachev, in which Pig
considers various modes of transportation - bike, car, train, plane,
etc. -- and Goat finds them all too dangerous. It turns out that
the only way for Pig to travel safely is to bring Goat along.
Arno loves to go to the library, mainly for two things: finding good
movies, and removing DVDs from their special library containers at
self-checkout. Today he wanted Herbie, and he found The
Love
Bug
and Herbie
Rides
Again. Herbie has fascinated him for
months.
Mar 6 Arno
lost his second tooth Saturday (Mar 3). He cried over this one,
too, but he's been enjoying the shiny quarter the tooth fairy brought
him.
Saturday, we visited a pond
near my office. Two Canadian geese swam up close, as if they
thought we might feed them. Arno got to see them eat grass, drink
water, and even walk around on the bank a bit. We also watched a
pair of ducks fly past. The pond visit was Arno's favorite
activity of the day, winning out over my office, the library, and the
grocery store.
Sunday, we drove up the
Columbia Gorge a ways, took a very short walk in the forest, and had
lunch at Char-Burger, in a booth overlooking the Columbia River.
While pouring ketchup on fries, we watched freight trains go by on both
sides of the river and cars go across the "Bridge of the
Gods". That night, Arno seized the just-empty bubble bath
bottle and declared it a "ketchup bottle", and put imaginary ketchup on
everything in sight. At bed time, I quizzed him about all the
day's activities, and he said that eating at the restaurant was his
favorite. I assumed it was the river, the bridge, and the trains
that he liked so much. But maybe it was the ketchup. (Not
eating it, mind you - he hasn't been willing to taste it.)
Feb 25 Well,
Arno is four, and it seems to be common nowadays for children to start
learning to read around this age. Far be it from us to hold him
back! So I'm setting out to teach Arno to read. I hope that
the work will also build his mastery of speaking the language.
I'm using Teach
Your
Child
to
Read
in
100
Easy
Lessons,
which is very cookie-cutter, say these words and require these
responses,
do not deviate from the plan. Each lesson takes about fifteen minutes.
We did lesson one today. Arno learned to read the sounds "m" and "s",
and to say words fast and slow. He thought the fast and slow stuff was
pretty funny. The part I feel most unsure of is getting him to follow
directions for fifteen minutes. Well, it wasn't perfect on that score
today, but it went pretty well. I think he was curious about what I was
up to.
Feb 24 Arno
and Bettina came home from Taiwan last night. It sure is good to
see them again! He has been happily reaquainting himself with all
his toys. The story he picked out for
bedtime was The
Paperboy by Dav Pilkey.
He has come back more
confident, and more competent in many skills, including speaking
English. His speaking vocabulary is bigger, and his enunciation
is clearer. It's been really good for him to play with his
cousins for the past month.
Bettina brought back a CD
full of photos and even a few video clips, so I'll be getting some of
those up soon.
Feb 17 Today
is Arno's birthday. He's four years old. Today is also
Chinese New Year, the beginning of a Year of the Pig. Since today
is crowded with holiday festivities, Bettina's family celebrated Arno's
birthday earlier this week, one afternoon when all the children were
together. They sang "Happy Birthday" to him in English and
Mandarin, and he blew out the candles on a chocolate birthday
cake. I would have liked to have seen all that! They'll be
home the night of the 23rd.
Jan 30 Bettina
and Arno are in Taiwan for a month. Bettina writes:
Yesterday was another exciting day for Arno. As usual after
breakfast, Arno said "I want to go to Ama's house" (meaning Ya-Chuan's
apartment). So, Arno, Katie and I walked to Ya-Chuan's
apartment. He played with the toy cars Kai-Kai and Ya-Chuan gave
him. Then Kai-Kai and Ting-Ting came back from winter camp. There
was another wave of excitment, of course.
Katie went to the computer and played a computer game. Soon,
Kai-Kai joined in and Arno followed. Arno did not want to play
but he watched with interest. He insisted that Kai-Kai played
with the car race game again and again. He told Kai-Kai, " I want
car race," in Mandarin. My Mom laughs whenever she heard Arno say
something in Mandarin. That's the way she encourages Arno to
speak Mandarin.
After lunch, I took all the kids to the elementary school. They
kicked the ball; threw the ball to the basketball hoop; played slide;
clmbed up to the play structure and ran in the field. Katie was a
good runner. Arno followed Katie to run around the field.
That was a lot of exercise for Arno. On our way home, we needed
to walk through an overpass. Arno looked exhausted but he managed
to walk the stairs up to the overpass. Ting-Ting and Kai-Kai
stayed in Ya-Chuan's apartment and waited for Nu-Nu to take them home
after her work. Arno still has jet lag, so I took Arno and Katie
back to Ya-Ren's home; gave him a bath and a bottle of milk; brushed
his teeth, and he took a nap soundly.
In the evening we went with Little One Zero and Mei Huei (Mary) to
music class. Ya-Ren drove and dropped us to the class. With
the teacher's agreement, Arno and I were allowed to sit in the back,
watching. There were only three kids in the class. Mary
told me in the beginning there were twelve kids. It's near the
end of the term. Many kids dropped because they couldn't catch
up.
The kids were taught to read the notes and played piano. They
used both hands to play. The teacher wanted them to memorize the
notes for each song. Besides playing the piano, the teacher also
taught them to sing and dance. Arno jumped in to dance with
them. The teacher was ok with that. They are going to have
an examination soon. Those who pass the exam are allowed to move
on to the next level. Little One Zero was very active in the
class. When the teacher asked questions to the class, she was
always the first one responding to the teacher. She outperformed
the other two kids not only in playing the piano but also in dancing
and singing. Mary told me that Little One Zero would practice the
piano everyday at home without being asked. I hope Arno can do
that, too.
Later at night, Ya-Chuan came back from work. He came to Ya-Ren's
home to play with Arno. Ya-Chuan has been very busy working in
both Hsin-Chu and Taichung (which is one hour drive from
Hsin-Chu). He is assigned to the new fab in Taichung.
He will need to officially move to Taichung after Sasha delivers the
baby. Well, Ya-Chuan played hard with Arno and tried all his best
to get a kiss from Arno. But no success yet.
Jan 15, 2007 Today,
we were all caught off guard when Arno lost his first tooth. Even
though his first teeth were early risers, and the dentist had commented
at Arno's checkup last month that the tooth was slightly loose, it
didn't occur to us that we were near that time. But a quick call
to the dentist provided reassurance. Arno cried for a few minutes
and said he had to see the dentist, but his fear simmered down to
solemnity after a while. Fortunately, we'd read The Berenstain Bears Visit the Dentist,
which
explains
the
famous
rite
of
passage,
including
even
the
tooth
fairy's
exchange.
Jan 14, 2007 Arnologisms
today:
1. Watching me make coffee, seeing it vibrate as the steamer operates -
"the coffee is jumping."
2. We looked at some of his baby pictures online, for the first
time in a long while. Later in the day, he studied his face in
the mirror and said, "there's a baby in my face."
Nov 28, 2006
We had a light snow yesterday. Arno has seen snow out the
window before, but this was his first time to be out in it.
Bettina went to pick him up from school, and found him happily playing
outside, wearing someone else's coat. The teacher explained that
Arno had insisted on wearing the red coat (which apparently belongs to
some child who wasn't there). We had just replaced the red coat
he'd outgrown with a new brown one. I doubt he was confused - I
think he just liked the red one better. It generally takes him
about a week to accept a new article of clothing.
We went to see "Happy Feet"
in the theater on Sunday. Arno was in and out a few times while
the movie played (fortunately, we were well seated for that), and found
some parts scary, but generally enjoyed it.
Ya know how some book
series will put pictures of each title in the series on the back of
each book? Arno has noticed this, and gets a kick out of
it. Last Saturday, this marketing technique led us to borrowing a
couple Berenstain Bears books from the library.
Nov 19, 2006 Last
month,
we
visited
friends
in
Bellevue.
One
of
the
hosts
was
three
year
old Maya. Maya subsequently dictated a letter to be sent to
Arno. It goes:
Dear
Arno, You're my friend. I
like you, Arno. I love you, Arno.
I'll hug you, Arno. from Maya
So tonight, Arno composed a response.
Dear
Maya, Let's go to Maya's
house. I get Thomas and airplane. We
play Thomas and play Legos. I like to run, run, run with
Maya. I like the letter from Maya. From ARNO P.S. Let's go to Maya's
house. Ready, set, start.
Nov 1, 2006 I
didn't think Arno would go trick-or-treating this year. He's been
quite the naysayer, refusing to wear things, eat things, participate in
things. We'd found a firefighter's helmet at Goodwill, which he
refused to try on, never mind his love of fire trucks. Galoshes
and reflective tape on his raincoat were to complete the costume, but
he refused to try on galoshes at Fred Meyer (a local department store),
so I didn't bother getting the reflective tape, figuring the whole
venture just wasn't going to fly. But yesterday, he told Bettina
he wanted to go trick-or-treating, and yes, he would wear his
firefighter's helmet. I guess he remembered the ritual from last
year. So Arno and I bundled up for the cold wind, and we visited
the immediate neighbors, and up and down the street a little bit.
When we got back, Arno continued rehearsing the sequence with me:
while (true) { Arno: Ding dong! Me: Hello! Arno: Trick or treat! Me: Here you go! Arno: Thank you! Me: Bye bye! }
We also pretended to eat
the candy. (Arno likes to play with the candy, but he doesn't
want to eat it.)
Oct 14, 2006 Mega
Bloks and Legos (both standard and Duplos) have become a major element
of Arno's play. He's absorbed the idea of building just about
anything out of these bricks, and doesn't mind a very abstract
representation. This morning, a single red brick was a fire
hydrant. Mostly he wants me to build for him, and he will repair
the structures if they come apart while I'm at work. But
sometimes he participates in the assembly. He tends to be
conservative about a toy once it's been built - he loudly protests any
attempts at improvement.
Arno is becoming more
socialized. He enjoys preschool a lot, and after a play date with
Wei Wei last week, he's been asking to go play with him again.
Last night, people came to buy his crib. When the doorbell rang,
Arno sprinted to the door and had it opened for them before I'd even
gotten out of my chair.
Last week, we went to a Pumpkin Patch in North Plains. They had a
nice little train for us to ride. It was a short ride, and the
one at the zoo is a better deal. Arno wasn't satisfied with what
the first set of tickets got us, but we didn't want to buy more tickets
just for that short ride. But we got back to the car without
anyone making a scene, thanks to methods we learned from Love and Logic.
Oct 7, 2006 See
pictures
newly (if belatedly) posted, from my mother's visit last month.
We've
put Arno in another Montessori preschool, Northwest Montessori.
We liked Teacher Alix at Angels Montessori very much, but the untrained
owner of this fledgeling school was a bit too personally involved in
classroom tactics. We had a bit of a rough start at NW - Arno
peed in his pants twice on the first day. But the second and
third days went very well.
Some recent reading
hits:
Gotta
Go!
Gotta
Go! by Sam Swope and Sue Riddle. No, this book is
about a caterpillar who must go to Mexico.
Suddenly!
by Colin McNaughton. (We borrowed a bilingual English-Chinese
edition.)
Sep 29, 2006 Arno
had another victory in managing his waste removal processes, and told
Bettina, "let's call Daddy." But once on the phone, he wanted to
talk about other things. OK.
Later in the day, he was
engaging Bettina in his new game, in which everybody sits on the sofa
and pretends it's a car, then gets off and goes to a chair and pretends
it's a train. Then back to the car. Iterate. Well,
Arno and Bettina had this dialogue:
B: Who is driving the car?
A: Arno is driving the car.
B: You are too little to drive. You have to grow up to be big
like Daddy to drive a car.
A: Mama is little!
Sep 24, 2006 This
was breakthrough weekend in, er, pooping. For the first time, and
twice in a row, Arno alerted us in time to get him on the potty and
keep his underwear clean. Hooray!
In other important
developments, we are learning and adopting "Love and Logic" parenting
methods. My friend Steve Sullivan in Colorado recommended them,
and I found a book, Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical
Parenting from Birth to Six Years, by Jim Fay and Charles
Fay, in the library.
We're seeing some difference
already. We hope to bring a more pliant, willing and adaptable
child with us to Disney World in November.
Sep 22, 2006 The
other night, Arno saw the tub of Legos we'd given him for his birthday
last February. At the time, he didn't want to do much more with
them than toss them around, so I'd put it up in a closet. Arno
wanted to give them another try. That turned out to mean, "Daddy,
make a train." And a boat, and a tunnel for the boat. The
boat became Stuart Little's boat, and the train became Dumbo's Casey,
Jr. He was really charged up about these Legos. The next
day, when Bettina called me at work, he wanted to talk to me,
too. He told me he'd fixed the Lego train, and he recited out
home phone number. I got a charge out of that.
July 4, 2006 This
evening we went out to watch the neighbors light fireworks in the
street in front of our house. Arno was curious but also wary, and
hid behind his parents when the fireworks got loud. But as the
evening progressed, he got happy and excited, squealing, laughing, and
jumping up and down. He wanted to hold a sparkler, but he didn't
want it lit.
June 22, 2006Bettina writes:
Arno loves
reading.
The library has a summer reading program called "Paws, Claws, Scales
and
Tales". I signed him up for this program. They gaveArno
a checklist where there were little dogs and cats. Each
time Arno finishes
a book, he'll color a dog (or
cat). When the colored dogs (or cats) reach a certain
quantity,
they give Arno
stickers,
pencil. After he finishes coloring all the animals, they'll
give
him a book (which will happen soon). We read books in
English as
well as in Mandarin for him. He has excellent memory!
He
memorizes most of what we read to him and he likes to repeat
them.
It's always very pleasant to see Arno
turn pages of books and "read" (rehearse) the book, when I am busy
cooking and can't play with him.
Our little boy has become more and more decisive about what he wants to
wear. Sometimes, he'll specify which shirt he wants. The
race car
--- Lighting McQueen" is his new favorite toy. Bert bought
the
book --- Cars, to read to him. And he even took Arno to the movie theater to watch
"Cars" for the second time on Father's Day. Arno has been repeating the dialogue
in the
movie ever since.
Regarding his potty training, he can tell us when he wants to urinate
but he
refuses to sit on the potty for bowel movement. I really don't
understand
why he prefers to poop in the diaper (sometimes even in the underwear)
than in
the toilet.
June 1 2006 Miss Alix:
Hello Arno! Today
Arno enjoyed his vehicle and flight puzzles, observed an older child
writing his vowels and name in print and cursive, repeated the group
chorus of vowel pronunciation,
a = apple, alligator
e = elephant, elevator
i = igloo, itch
o = octopus, octagon
u = under, underwear
Arno was wonderful with
going to the bathroom in the toilet twice today! Good job Arno!
Summer ideas:
colors and numbers
sorting and sequence
rainbow song:
"red, orange, yellow and green, blue and indigo and violet. I can
make a rainbow, and arc-ciel and a Kesmet."
Continue with
pouring, spooning, patterns, and opposities. Work with snapping,
zipper, buttoning
May 31, 2006 Arno had a couple weeks at
home, due to a fever. Today he went back to Angels
Montessori. Here are Miss Alix's notes:
Welcome back
Arno! Your smile is always great to see! =) Today, Arno
worked on building the pink tower, animal, plane and train
puzzles. For the vehicle puzzle I'd ask him, "where's the police
car / fire truck etc ..." and he could always say and identify the
correct one. Arno enjoyed coloring the shapes page I made for
him. he does very well with following instructions i.e. :
lining up for bathroom time, using walking feet putting away
work. In fact, Arno is a great helper! He even puts away
mats and pushes in chairs that aren't his! Thanks for the
wonderful clean-up Arno! Arno did throw the pink tower pieces (he
wanted them to roll), a child reminded him to not do that. He
said, "ok." and then stacked the tower back up. Arno enjoyed
watching another child work on spooining beads and the second level of
separating the beads by color too.
May 14, 2006 Arno said "Happy Mother's
Day!"
May 12, 2006 Miss
Alix
was
not
at
school
today,
so
we
have
notes
from
Miss
Usha:
Arno walked in with a
smile and said "bye" to mom happily. he hopped to the classroom
worked with puzzles and dressing frames. Then we had a bathroom
break upon his request. Then we had snack, he nibbled on his
snacks, because he was too anxious to play in the playroom. He
loves trains, trucks and cars. Today was very pleasant day and
outside play was fun. Arno loves to run and chase. We are
very glad Arno is very comfortable and uses more words and
expresses. Arno is a sweet boy, he is very calm and likes to copy
other kids.
May 11, 2006 Miss
Alix's
notes:
Today Arno was happy
than quiet. He tried to do two work activities, rainbow wooden
peg stairs and shapes, when Teacher Alix worked with him. Yet, he
did not want to choose anything on his own right away. He was
very interested in quietly following Michelle around to observe her at
all of her different work experiences. Such as how happy
she was to be able to successfully complete her snap frame, wooden
beads #1-10, knobbed cylinders, pink tower, and than, Arno became more
comfortable in the classroom and got out his own work. It was
airplane puzzles "vehicles in flight," and woked on a floor mat beside
Michelle.
May 9, 2006 Miss
Alix's
notes:
Good morning!
Arno wasn't ready for a bathroom break when I arrived (I checked and he
was dry). So he stayed with Usha while I took the two girls. Arno watched and
listened Trisha work with her objects word cards (she sat next to him),
I then encouraged him to try the shapes peg board, which he then worked
with. 15 mins. After I'd brought the girls back from the
bathroom I knew then that Arno would have to go. Yes Arno went in
his pull-up but also went to the bathroom in the toilet! Great
job Arno! Returning, Arno saw some children working on
puzzles. He joined in too! With the automobiles, trains and
those that fly.
May 4, 2006 Miss Alix's notes:
When I arrived at
9:25am, Michelle, Trisha and Arno were already there. They were
surprised and glad to see me this morning! Especially Arno and I
too was glad and excited to see him! Arno only asked once,
"where's mommy?" and again I said, "she's at work and you're working
with me." to which he replied, "Oh." And did not stay by my side
and instead walked off to a child to see what she was working on.
Arno did on occasion walk over to me or follow me to wherever I was
with whatever child introducing or re-introducing a lesson to. He
did a lot of interested watching today. I'm glad to see that he's
feeling comfortable a little more to explore the classroom. Arno
enjoyed the spontaneous group lesson I rechecked with Richa on the work
of wooden beads counting 1-10 to identify and separate which, in the
middle of the lesson review, sparked the interest of all the children
to spontaneously walk over, quietly sit down, listen and observe of
their own accord (what every Montessorian loves to witness!) I
did sneak a peek and saw and heard Arno's rapt attention and repeating
aloud the #steps involved. Right now he enjoys listening and
observing as his primary work, which IS considered work here. And
yet, he likes to attempt work trials when he thinks I'm not watching
him. :-) Arno also enjoyed co-participating in our colour
box 2 (secondary colour tablets) matching that I regave the lesson to
another student and it counted as his work lesson (indirectly).
We match one colour tablet at a time to a classroom object found
through walking around the classroom with it. For an EXACT
match. Arno oved outdoor play and snack time as well as storytime!
May 2, 2006
Miss
Alix's
notes
on
Arno's
day
at
Angels
Montessori:
Dear Arno, Welcome! It
is wonderful to meet you! Today was Arno's first day and he
didn't cry! He did ask for his mother more than once, "where is
mommy?" And I'd reply, "you are working here at school and she is
at her work." Followed by a quick distraction of showing him
something to work with or keeping him by my side while I gave a lesson
to another child. Arno likes to observe, he's interested in the
colour boxes that show the varying shades of a colour (light to dark),
he enjoyed writing with markers, observed the children for outdoor
play, liked to hum, ate snack, watched circle time and listened
astutely. Arno did well with
his first day! I do believe he will be exploring more sork soon
as he gets more comfortable with his environment and gradually branches
out from my side.
May 1, 2006 Arno's making
significant progress in toilet training, wearing his nifty and
comfortable Thomas
underpants much of the day, having accidents but
also initiating pre-emptive trips to the bathroom. Sometimes he
demands his reward of three M&Ms, and sometimes he makes hopeful,
but dry, trips to the toilet simply because he wants M&Ms; but he
is also catching on to the benefits of using bathrooms instead of
diapers.
He'll be attending Angels Montessorifor three half days a week, starting tomorrow. We hope this
will socialize him a little more.
Last night he had his first well-formed telephone
conversation, starting with "hello, how are you", ending in "goodbye",
with other
stuff in between. My uncle Norman was his interlocutor.
April 16, 2006 new photos.
Arno's
day,
yesterday:
I
made
blueberry
pancakes
(Bettina's
request),
and
offered
a
small
one
to Arno; but he didn't want anything but milk for
breakfast. He also insisted that it was lunch, not
breakfast. Then we asked him if he wanted to go the the library
with me or stay home with Bettina. "Library." He followed
me around the house as I collected books that were due. Under the
night stand in
the bedroom, we have, as Arno remarked, "lots and lots of books."
He also observed, "it's raining outside."
He was agreeable at the library today, sticking pretty
close to me. We found some promising materials, including a DVD
documentary on how cars are built, a book on airplanes, and The Amazing Bone and Doctor De Soto Goes to Africa.
(We
are
big
fans
of
William
Steig.)
But, between the car and the library crouched Radio
Shack, with boy bait cleverly displayed on the floor just inside the
window - a ten dollar, battery powered race track. A two minute
inspection sufficed for me to grab the last one on the shelf.
Arno thought he would take one of the cars from the display with him,
but he was satisfied to leave it, when I explained that I was buying
the set. The young man at the cash register seemed to enjoy the
transaction. Arno wanted to hold the box while I drove
home. I'm not sure which of us was more eager to get it set up.
I was momentarily concerned that a ten dollar race car
set might be worth ten dollars less than that, if it doesn't
work. But we got past that. Then it turned out that a
simple squash of the controller sends its speeding car over the guardrail - a careful,
partial squeeze is required, if crashing isn't your intention.
Initially, this was too much for
Arno, and he decided to push his car around the track by hand.
But within an hour, he went back to figuring out the controller, and
before bed time, he would have the hang of it. Bettina fed him a
peanut
butter sandwich while he played.
At three o'clock, I asked him if he wanted to take his
race cars with him to his nap. No, he wanted to keep racing; but
that wasn't an option. So I carried a squalling child upstairs,
and pacified him a few minutes later by bringing up the race
cars. He chattered in bed for a couple hours before falling
asleep.
He awoke at six with the words "race cars" on his
lips. Bettina had boiled eggs while we were at the library, but
we knew
better than to try to interest him in dyeing them before he'd supped
sufficiently at the table of Nascar. After about thirty
minutes' racing, I started the egg dyes on
the kitchen table, and Arno came to see what was going on.
Coloring the eggs was as big a hit as we could have wished for.
Then it was back to the race cars, where Bettina fed him the usual rice
and cheese dinner.
Bettina's father called and asked me to turn on the
computer, so we could do skypevideo phone calls with the family in Taiwan. Arno and I popped in
and out of the dining room, where Bettina's laptop stays, to see and be
seen, while Bettina talked with her parents, sister, and nieces and
nephew.
Arno's bath was late, about nine o'clock. As
usual, that was followed by me reading stories while Bettina
showered. We read the new Steig books from the library, and The Tale of Peter Rabbit, and
the still-beloved Thomas
the
Really
Useful
Engine, which we've been reading almost every
night for several months.
This morning, once again, Arno's waking words were,
"race cars." I wonder if his Island of Sodor wooden railway will
ever hold the same appeal again. I hope so, and I think so -- it
has so many stories associated with it. The Easter egg hunt took place in the
living room, since it was wet and chilly outside. It was a hit,
too.
April 13, 2006 More fallout from watching
"Walk the Line" -- Arno likes to sing "Ring of Fire", too. Nobody
feels uneasy about that. We went to the zoo, Arno's second
time. He seemed to pay more attention, and for a longer time,
than on our previous visit last sumer. We got quite close to a
bull elephant, who was making good use of his trunk, sweeping and
vaccuuming up food pellets. The primates were lively, except for
the sleeping orangutans. But after a couple hours, Arno didn't
want to get out of his stroller any more, so we headed home.
Apr 11, 2006 Arno has outgrown his
tricycle, but he still prefers
it to the Tigger bike we bought him yesterday. We may have made a
mistake in buying the bike that we preferred, rather than the one he
preferred. He can shoot a basketball conventionally now, i.e. by
throwing the ball up against the backboard, rather than by standing
tippy-toe to push it over the rim. The other night we were
watching
the Johnny Cash biopic, and Arno starting telling me, "car, car,"
insistently, so we paused the movie to see what was so important.
He
took me to the guitar ("car"), which I hadn't played in months, and
he started singing "Folsom Prison Blues", which I used to play
frequently. I got a kick out of him making that connection.
Bettina
doesn't really like him knowing that particular song, though. "I
shot
a man in Reno just to watch him die..."
Mar 5, 2006 So, Arno went with me to the
library, and we looked for "Jay Jay the Jet Plane" videos, but didn't
find any. I had to explain many times that there weren't any more
Jay Jay videos today, as we headed into the book stacks. So Arno
proposed an alternative - "Jay Jay book." This seemed like a good
question to take to the librarian, so we asked her, and she actually
found a listing for "Snuffy's Thanksgiving", which was supposed to be
on the shelf. The librarian wanted to find the book for us, but
gave up after a few minutes in front of the children's holiday
books. But we persisted and were victorious. This is the
first book that Arno has specifically asked for at the library.
Feb 24, 2006 Bettina made Arno a little
orange paper airplane that turned out to be just the right size and
weight. He can throw it pretty effectively, with a straight-armed
underhand. This has thrilled him to no end, and so he demands
that I take another glider we've had for several months (which has
recently been dubbed the "F-15 fighter jet" due to its slight
resemblance to that jet in "Firefighter George's Amazing Airplanes")
and throw airplanes around the house with him. In other body-use
headlines, Arno is turning lights on and off without pushing a chair
under the light switch first, and he can go up the stairs, one foot per
stair.
Recent language includes "Mama disappeared," after
Bettina has been downstairs and out of sight longer than expected;
also, "let's go find airplanes" and "I'll get it."
Feb 12, 2006 Bettina has had some luck,
recently, finding playmates for Arno. Friday afternoon, Andrew
and Ryan came over. They're going to meet weekly, rotating
hosts. These are Mandarin parties, so Arno is getting more
exposure to his mother tongue. Andrew is several months younger
than Arno, but they seem to connect well. Ryan is a bit older,
but shyer. The week before, Arno went to Ryan's house for a
one-on-one, and Arno eventually got Ryan running around with him and
laughing; but this week, Ryan didn't get involved in playing with the
other boys. Arno likes to push people playfully, not
understanding that small people don't usually consider that a friendly
gesture - so we're working on that.
Jan 31, 2006 UPS left a big brown box at
our front door. Arno followed me as I carried it upstairs and
asked, "Can you open it? What's inside?" He doesn't want to
wait for his birthday - probably doesn't understand what that
means. But I'm getting a kick out this, because it's the first
time he's shown interest in an unopened box. So this is how we
know that he learned something last Christmas.
Yesterday, Bettina decided to put away the
pacifiers. Last night went much better than we expected. He
got out most of his loud opposition to the new arrangement at afternoon
nap time, and was too sleepy by night to argue, I suppose.
Jan 24, 2006 A warm afternoon prompted a
tricycle riding session for Arno. He can pedal now, backwards and
forwards.
Recent speech includes "Come on, Daddy, let's run!" and
"Let's go to Island of Sodor."
Jan 15, 2006 We took a road trip to go
see some snow. Theoretically it was a ninety minute drive to our
target area near Mount Hood. But Arno regurgitated a bottle of
milk on the way there, necessitating a visit to a conveniently located
Fred Meyer for new clothes. Then lunch at Calamity Jane's.
We did finally get above the snow line, where snow was not only on the
ground, but also falling from above, but Arno didn't feel like getting
out of the car. Better luck next year.
Jan 9, 2006 Breakthrough! Arno peed
into the toilet -first time ever. He danced around the house for
a few minutes to celebrate.
A new batch from
the library includes picture books on helicopters, bulldozers,
concrete mixers, and Baby Sea Otter,
which
Arno
calls
“ABC
Otter”.
Oh,
and
Rainbow
Fish, specially recommended by Arno's art class to tie in to the
underwater theme they are exploring. Two weekends in a row, I
take Arno to bookstores when the
library is closed and I want to get him out of the house and weather
is not inviting. We look at calendars and wonderful picture books
full of airplanes and convertibles before we make it to the
children's section. At Barnes & Noble, he stops to listen to a
mother reading a “Dora the Explorer” puppet book to her children. When
it's over, she says hello to him, and he responds, “Polar
Express.” We find Donald Crews' sequel to Freight Train, a
nifty board book with sliding sections to show you the contents of
each car on the train. Arno is engrossed, though closing the
expanded pages is a bit tricky. We read Polar Express again.
But when we are leaving the store, and when we are home afterwards,
what he asks for is Rusty, one of the Thomas & Friends vehicles,
which we saw on display there. Maybe for your birthday, Arno. (In
fact, I already have it stashed away for that occasion.)
Jan 8, 2006 Arno's routine these days
includes Gymboree on Wednesdays and art class on Mondays. Bettina
has worried that he declines to speak when it's his turn ("the teacher
will think he is stupid!" although the teacher has tried to reassure
her that all the children are like that when they first start coming),
so she was thrilled yesterday when he answered the teacher's color
question. (Actually, he replied to a different question than the
one she asked, but at least he spoke.) And he has started to
answer many of her questions to the class, but quietly, so that only
Bettina can hear. All this makes me think of a report card I have
from my own second grade at Somerset Elementary, in which the teacher
wrote that I never spoke above a whisper for most of the year.
Anyway, Arno loves Gymboree, so it's our main leverage point for
introducing him to the days of the week. ("Gymboree is on
Wednesdays. Today is Saturday." -- and ticking off the days of
the week as we go up the stairs) They also met another
Mandarin-speaking mother and son (boy eight months younger than Arno,
but assertive) with whom they've arranged Friday play dates (first one
is today).
Yesterday we visited David Wheeler, a pediatric
ophthalmologist, about Arno's chronic, on-and-off eye discharge.
When Arno was 14 months old, we saw a pediatric eye surgeon in Palo
Alto about it, and scheduled surgery to open or widen the drainage tube
for his right eye, but the discharge cleared up while we were dreading
the appointed date, so we cancelled that. Then the eye discharge
started to show up again, once in a while -- since we moved to Portland
in April, three cycles of discharge -> doctor -> ten days of
antibiotic eye drops -- which finally prompted the pediatrician,
Jeffrey Miller, to refer Arno to Dr. Wheeler. Dr. Wheeler was all
good news, expressing confidence that Arno's narrow duct is probably
self-correcting and needs no intervention; what is more, advising
against the eye drop regime, except possibly if Arno gets pronounced
conjunctivitis (pinkeye - reddening of the white of the eye) - and even
then, advising that the antibiotic is not entirely necessary, only
speeding the natural recovery from the infection by a day or so.
Hooray! Bettina also seized the opportunity to ask the doctor
about a minor point of contention at home - is it harmful to read while
lying down? No, he said, and went on to mention a few other
"things your mother might have told you" that are invalid -- sitting
close to the TV and reading in not-so-bright light are not going to
hurt your eyes, he said. :-)
Dec 28, 2005 I believe Arno knows what a
present is, now, though he still won't unwrap one. Gifts that
have already acquired a lot of miles include a Thomas playhut from
Grandma and Grandpa, a set of Thomas storybooks from (Great-) Uncle
Norman and Aunt Patti, "Thomas
&
Friends:
The
Early
Years" (the original twenty-six episodes
of the TV show, on DVD) from Arno's Daddy, and Alfie
and Percy
with
Holiday
Cars from Sarah and Daniel (who visited from Oakland
earlier this month). Is this boy obsessed, or what? I don't
mean to suggest that he is entirely oblivious of life beyond the Island
of Sodor. We all enjoyed watching "The Polar Express", and he
does happily read a variety of books and play with non-Sodor
vehicles. But Thomas and his friends are the Ground of Being, out
of which these other brief phenomena arise and into which they subside.
The "Early Years" DVD set is narrated by Ringo
Starr. He isn't brilliant, but I get a kick out of just knowing
it's him, and enjoy the Liverpudlian accent. These episodes
introduce a lot of the now-classic friends, such as Percy, Bertie, and
Anna and Clarabel. The engines behave a bit less admirably in
these older stories, but the psychology is realistic and the lessons
are learned without bludgeoning the audience. The sets are
superb, much better than the Thomas on air today.
Dec 22, 2005 Winter is icumen in.
Happy Winter Solstice! Photos
document the season and a recent visit from Steve, Ann, Joanne, Sarah,
and Daniel.
Dec 10, 2005 We've had a dry week, even
sunny today, prompting a walk at Stoller Middle School and a visit to
Hillsboro Airport, where we saw helicopters and small propeller planes
in action. Arno started talking about the characters from "Jay
Jay the Jet Plane." When we were leaving, he started saying, "I
want Herky," which we answered, "Herky's at home," choosing to
interpret "Herky" as his toy, though he might have meant he wanted to
see the helicopters again.
Nov 10, 2005 Oh, I didn't write about
Halloween, did I? Arno was a ladybug.
He
has
no
interest
in
eating
candy,
but
he
had
a
great
time visiting
neighbors and putting candy in the baskets of children at our front
door.
Oct 29, 2005 We're adapting to the
temperate rainforest climate. This morning, the temperature was
in the fifties and it was raining lightly. But, knowing the
weather could just get even wetter and stay wetter all weekend, we
decided not to wait. We put on our sweaters, our new galoshes
(that's a new word for Arno and for Bettina), and our raincoats, and
drove to a nearby farm. We saw calves, goats, piglets, chickens,
a sheep, rabbits, a pony, and guinea fowl. Oh yeah, lots of
pumpkins too; and plenty of mud puddles to splash in. Arno didn't
particularly want to leave.
Oct 22, 2005 Arno and Bettina came back
home Tuesday. It seems Arno was having some trouble adjusting to
the climate - got a rash, didn't eat well - hence the early
return. Their sleeping schedule is all over the
place, of course. Arno and I have had a couple times when we were
just
looking at each other and giggling, like, "oh, it's you! Oh, it's
you!" We all went for a little walk in Forest Park yesterday - I
found
a trail that's only a ten minute drive from our house, so it's
reasonable to go even if Arno is only going to be up for twenty minutes
or so. It's a new and different enough environment that we all
have to
figure out a lot of basics together. Arno was very cautious at
first,
walking slowly and holding onto both of our hands. Then he
decided to
explore, and Bettina got alarmed a few times. Arno wants to tromp
in
the mud. Maybe we should get him some proper galoshes. But
how many
times will he use them before he grows out of them? Bettina and I
should get ourselves some proper galoshes, too, now that we live here.
Oct 9, 2005 Arno and Bettina flew to
Taiwan
on September 27 to spend a month with family. Arno, of course,
knows more about airplanes and airports than he did on his last flight,
which was in March. He didn't much care for walking through the
security gate by himself, but he managed it, seeing Mama right there in
front of him, beckoning. Here's a report from Bettina:
"Besides riding on Uncle's back, Arno likes to play
"Arno Sushi" with Uncle. Ya-Chuan puts Arno on a blanket
and rolsl Arno up in it (with head and feet outside the
blanket). He calls it Arno Sushi. Arno tries
his best to un-wrap himself. Arno is very excited whenever
he manages to get out.
This morning we took Arno to the library.
We went directly to the kids' section, where there are
books/Video/DVD/computers for kids. Arno ran around for a
while and he browsed about 8 books. He wouldn't let me read
books for him. He wanted to turn the pages
himself. There's story time every weekends for kids,
too. But we didn't arrive at story time. So,
next time I'll take Arno there for story time. Arno and I
stayed in the kids' sectrion for about 30 minutes; then I took Arno to
the newspaper room to meet Uncle Ya-Chuan. There are all
kinds of newspapers there. Arno curiously looked
around. Just before we were ready to go home, Nu-Nu
called. She wanted us to go to her apartment for lunch.
As usual, Arno didn't eat much solid food, but he had a good time with
Sherry and Kevin. Both Sherry and Kevin played piano for
us. Sherry is really good at piano. Kevin is
good, too. For Kevin, the piano class is the basic
foundation for the violin class. The teacher said if Kevin wanted
to play violin, he needed to start from the piano. Kevin was very
generous to Arno. He brought all his toys to play with Arno
and he was willing to give them to Arno. But I don't think my
lugage is big enough to carry all the toys. So, I told
Kevin to keep the toys in Taiwan, so that everytime Arno came to visit
him, he had some toys to play with."
Sep 3, 2005 We had a visit from
Daddy's aunt Geri and uncle Jim. That was fun, and Arno got to
reconnect with some more family. Next week, Arno's weekday
afternoon babysitters, the girls next door, go back to school, so
A-Xiang Yi Po will be coming to take their place. It will be a
tough act to follow - Arno has enjoyed those girls. We met
A-Xiang at the Portland Buddhist Temple. She's a one-time
restauranteur, with grandchildren of her own, a very lively woman.
Aug 13, 2005 Arno's
downstairs watching "Noodlebug" for the second time today. Both
times, I waited until he asked for it several times, before putting it
on. The narrator enunciates each word separately and carefully,
making it a great pronunciation resource for a language learner.
I wonder if that's what's caught his attention so keenly - he watches
them more intently than any of the other shows he likes.
It is so much fun
watching him "read" books at bedtime. He reads "Are You My
Mother?", page by page, based on how much of the narrative he has
memorized. "Came a kitten. Are you my mother? kitten.
Kitten looked looked. Not say thing." ... He'll then read
three Sandra Boynton books perfectly: "Doggies," "Opposites," and
"Moo Baa La La La." Her "Barnyard Dance!" is also one he knows
very well, but the language is much more difficult for him to actually
say - "Prance with the horses, skitter with the mice."
Jul 24, 2005 Blow the horns and
strike the gongs! Arno pooped in the potty today.
Jul 16, 2005 We made it
through our first week of Mama working at ESI. Wednesday and
Thursday were the hardest - Arno missed his mama a lot in the
afternoons. But Friday went really well, so maybe he started to
gain confidence that Mama would be home every night. The
regularity of the KinderCare schedule may be easier for him to handle,
too - being dropped off and picked up at the same time every day for
five days in a row. He likes the girls, Cassandra, Tiffany, and
Lexi, a lot, and they take good care of him. Daddy did have to
spend some extra time with him on Wednesday and Thursday afternoons.
Arno's interest in story books just took a great leap
forward. Previously, we had to introduce new books a page at a
time, and only after several visits would he attend all the way
through, even for a board book with one or two sentences per
page. But last weekend we brought Frank Asch's "Happy Birthday
Moon" home from the library, and read it all the way through, first
time. We've read it many times since then, too. It probably
helped that he'd seen a video version of the story before, but still,
the difference in interest was significant, and also showed in Sandra
Boynton's "Birthday Monsters" and a couple "Thomas & Friends" books.
Arno continues to obsess over "Jay Jay the Jet
Plane". The kitchen table is littered with drawings and pictures
(to color, printed from the internet) of Jay Jay characters, and he
uses crayons as ersatz airplanes. A blue crayon is Jay Jay, a
purple one is Tracy, etc. Every night he asks Daddy for "Tracy
game", which means to sit at the computer and visit www.pbskids.org/jayjay.
A
glider
that
Daddy
bought
at
the
drug
store
a
few
weeks
ago has been
christened "Big Jake" and assumed new importance in Arno's inventory.
Daddy found out through craigslist that a woman in
Hillsboro decided to sell most of her Thomas the Tank Engine
collection, and he knew there was not a moment to lose. A lot of
kids besides Arno love Thomas, and the stuff ain't cheap, so many
parents are keen to pick up the lifetime-guaranteed toys used.
Daddy now has a big bag full of Thomas goodies in the garage, to
introduce to Arno gradually, one piece at a time, so that he gets a big
thrill out of each one. The first piece Arno got was Toby.
Toby is in Arno's hand pretty much all day.
Arno still loves his yellow Beetle with ladybugs on it,
though. It's falling apart, and he's been saying "Daddy fix it"
for a few days. Last night, he made sure Daddy understood he really, really wants it fixed, by
crying about it. So, we'll see how much good a bit of Uhu and
tape will do.
Arno's singing a lot - songs from his favorite shows,
and songs Mama has taught him (including something from "the Sound of
Music").
Jul 5, 2005 new
photosLast Saturday we went to Mt. Hood Railroad
to ride on Thomas the Tank Engine's train and, we thought, to get our
photo taken with Sir Topham Hatt. It was a bit of a
let-down. They did have a "life-size" Thomas at the end of the
train, but we couldn't get close to it without paying another fee, and
Arno didn't seem too excited about it. He did enjoy riding on the
train, but it could have been any train, really. He liked the
toddler-sized play structure, but the highlight of the trip was ...
shopping! A Thomas-themed gift shop yielded a Harold the
Helicopter (Arno's clear choice out of everything in the tent) and a
train engineer's hat with a Thomas logo on it (Mama's choice, but Arno
was pretty happy about it, once he figured out what it was, and it made
him the envy of another boy at the New Seasons market the other
day). Harold appears to be Arno's new favorite toy. We also
stopped at Multnomah Falls on the way home. Check that off the
list.
On July 11, Bettina starts working at ESI as a business
analyst for their ERP implementation project. So we had to figure
out, fast, arrangements for unsuspecting Arno. His KinderCare
schedule will go from three to five mornings a week - we don't want him
to spend the whole day there; we just think he's too young for that if
we have any choice. We interviewed one young man for an afternoon
nanny position, and we liked him and thought he would be very good; but
we wound up making arrangements with our next door neighbors, the
Wongs, instead. Arno will spend his weekday afternoons with three
girls, ages thirteen, twelve, and four. Their parents, and Arno's
mama, seem to be quite confident that it will work well. And
Daddy, of course, is home, able to take a peek and smoothe over rough
spots once in a while, and respond to any emergency. It could be
very nice, like having a bunch of big sisters. Come August, we'll
have to start working on a new arrangement, since the girls will be
going to school in September.
I've never known another neighborhood like this one,
for Independence Day fireworks. We heard a few fireworks every
night for several nights, and then last night, almost every block on
every street was a separate, dazzling, noisy, smoky display. We
watched some for a while, but after a while we could tell it was a bit
much for Arno, so we went home. It was still going on when we
fell asleep.
Jun 22, 2005 Last weekend, Arno
found a "Jay Jay the Jet Plane" videotape at the library.
"Airplane," he said. Since then, he asks to watch it many times a
day - we've let him watch it up to three times in a day so far,
depending on how tired and busy we are. We all like Bob the
Builder, but Jay Jay is worse than Barney. Really annoying fake
accents - Savannah is supposed to be a southern belle, and she has a
standard phony "this is what some ignoramous thinks is a southern"
accent. But Herky's even worse, sort of taking Savannah and
adding rolled r's. Then there's the music - the less said, the
better. The baby faces on the planes are, maybe, very appealing
to a two-year-old, but not to me!
But what an instant hit with Arno! He talks about
it constantly.
May 9, 2005 Arno's first day Kindercare
apparently went well. He didn't cry when Bettina said "bye bye",
but he cried for half an hour after a small boo-boo (we suspect he was
asking for his pacifier, in Mandarin, and kept crying because he wasn't
getting it), and he started crying again when he saw Bettina
arrive to take him home.
May 4, 2005 A little fall on the hardwood
floor at the entry moved one of Arno's front teeth a little bit (can
you tell in the photo below?). We were fortunate to find an
excellent pediatric dentist, Dr. Hsu ("Shoebox" Pediatric Dentistry,
with little pairs of shoes scattered about in every room - get it?)
close to home. Dr. Hsu is not too worried about the effects of
the fall, but is more concerned about Arno's teeth splaying out due to
pacifier abuse. Yes, our son loves his binky. The Citizens'
Campaign to Stop the Sucking has begun. Arno doesn't like it one
bit.
May 3, 2005 Shocking! So much time
gone by with no updates. Well, we moved to Portland,
and Arnopolis moved to a new host (from earthlink to godaddy).
Expect some broken links if you go poking around. First things
first - here are a couple recent photos of Arno:
Mar 20, 2005 What's Arno's day been
today? Wake up around 9am, sit in Daddy's and then Mama's lap at
breakfast - they had french toast, but Mama gave me cottage cheese and
mashed banana mixed up together - you should try it, it's really
good. First performance for the parents, identify the coffee
maker when it's brewing.
Lots of "抱抱" ("bao bao," meaning "hold me") time, lots
of "嘴嘴" ("zhui zhui,"
meaning pacifier) and "被被"
("bei bei," meaning blanket). About ten minutes in the back yard,
but it started raining, so much for playing outside
today. (When we move to Portland, we'll equip Arno
for more weather.) After my nap, I like to be held, or to ride
like a bear cub on Daddy's back.
Oh, "Baby Einstein" and "Baby Bumblebee" this morning,
and "Wiggle Bay" this evening. Read "Barney's Color Train,"
"Bard's Rhyme Time," "I Know about the Clock," and "My First Number
Book" with Daddy. I pointed out to Daddy the brush on the
brown page in "Barney," and Daddy acted astounded, as if he didn't know
what a brush was. This afternoon, I played with my vehicles on
the living room floor while Mama and Daddy finished the movie they'd
started last night. There was lots of singing and dancing in it,
and some parts made Mama and Daddy laugh a lot. I love it when
they laugh, it makes me laugh, too.
Daddy's been turning the house upside down all
weekend. Every time I turn around, something looks really
different. Empty bookcases! Curtains down! And boxes
all over the place.
Mar 15, 2005 Poor Arnopolis, no updates
in so long... well, what's up with Arno? He's reading his name
("A, R, N, O ... Arno!") and learning "DOG" and "CAT". "Bob the
Builder" has supplanted the Wiggles as his favorite video
entertainment. His longest spoken phrase to date is "toot toot
chugga chugga big red car". He became (and remains) friendlier
with strangers during the time our house was on the market and so many
people were coming to see it. He still loves everything on
wheels, especially vehicles that fit in his hand and depend on him to
move around, and also depend on him to make whatever sounds he deems
appropriate. He loves the slide in the back yard, though its
ladder is not safe for him and a bit awkward anyway.
Feb 7, 2005 OK, I admit it, the update
rate has been
ridiculously low here. But at least I have pictures
up now.
Jan 22, 2005 We recently spent a few days in Maryland.
As usual, Arno was shy with people who weren't familiar to him, but he
did wind up playing with Grandma and Grandpa before it was over.
He even had this conversation with
Grandpa. Yes, I will post pictures.
Dec 21, 2004 Disaster in the Porter household:
Arno was sitting on his Daddy's lap at dinnertime, not eating
(typical), but cautiously raising Daddy's tall, plastic cup of water to
his lips. He knew this was a risky operation, so he just practiced
putting the cup to his lips for quite a while. Then, suddenly, he
decided to go for it, and lifted the bottom, to deliver the payload.
Bonanza! Water everywhere. Arno was very upset.
Arno has
recently discovered that the computer screen often has letters on it.
He likes the Google page because he can nail that 'G'.
Dec 17, 2004 Arno can count to 10. And he
can say "car," "truck," "tractor," and "bus."
Dec 7, 2004 Arno and Bettina spent four weeks with her
family in Taiwan. (pictures)
Lots of fun and learning. I wish we could all see our extended
family more often. Arno came back no longer afraid of remote
control cars - in fact, they are now his new
favorite. Another developmental headline - Arno can
pick out and name several numbers and letters. Bettina's been
teaching him at bath time, with the sponge figures my mom sent last
Christmas. Tonight I saw him pick out A,B,C,D,H,W,and Q.
And Bettina reports that he can pick out 1 through 5, and name them in
English and Mandarin.
open and close doors (note to self: still need help opening them
- must grow taller)
seek out and master any other reversible processes available
watch Baby Einstein or Baby Bumblebee
read "Beh Beh Beh Beh" (Mama and Daddy call it "Brown Bear, Brown
Bear")
read "Ba" (aka "Barney's Color Train")
take all the rings off the spindle and put them back in the right
order
put all the shaped pieces into the puzzle ball
eat
nap
poop
drink nei-nei
ride around the house on Daddy's back
play guitar, and get Daddy to play some
play (lots) with trucks and the train and the convertible School
Bus
convert the School Bus into a book, read it, convert it back into
a bus
go out somewhere with Mama
drill Mama and Daddy on Chinese characters
study letters and numbers, using the sponges from Grandmama and
Grandpa, in the bath
sit in Mama's lap when she is reading email, and take all the
pens and pencils out of the drawer
scribble (usually on paper)
Sep 19, 2004 When he isn't hungry or
sleepy, Arno likes to
play, explore, or learn how to do things. A major learning theme
for him is taking apart and putting back together. This morning
he found a box with three cassettes in it. He was intent on
learning how to open the cassette case, remove the cassette, put it
back in, and close the case. After he'd done that for a while, he
grabbed a CD case and proceeded to drill on opening and closing it.
As for literary interests, his favorites now are "Brown
Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?" by Bill Martin, Jr. and Eric Carle;
and "Spot's Noisy Walk" by Eric Hill. "Brown Bear" is on loan
from the library. A couple weeks ago, I brought about eight board
books home from the library, and this one took immediately. One
big image on each double-page, with a repetitive, rhythmic pattern,
ending with all the previous images together on the last
double-page. After a couple weeks, he could identify all the
images. "Where's the red bird?" and he points to it. "Spot"
is a hand-me-down gift from Ann and Steve (and Sarah and Daniel).
It's one of those books with little sound-boxes to press, to hear
sounds that go with the story.
His speech is developing quickly now, too. He
repeats one sound out of a word he hears, or points to an image in a
book and says one sound in the word it represents. "Buh" for
"Barney" (he still likes "Barney's Color Train"), "tuh" for "train",
"gak" for "quack".
Aug 2, 2004 Arno enjoys scribbling.
But I was dismayed
to see him deeply engaged in scribbling with a blue ball point pen on
the linoleum in the dining area. While he was in the bath, I went
after the scribbles with 409, but it wasn't doing the job. After
a couple frantic, unfruitful googles, I called my aunt Geri. She
suggested bleach, which did the job nicely. Thanks, Geri.
Later I did yoga in the living room. Arno had fun
going back and forth under the triangle formed by my legs when I was
doing Utthita Trikonasana, Utthita Parsvakonasana, and Virabhandrasana.
This weekend we went to a party at Sarah and Daniel's
home in Oakland. Among the many gifts (very nice hand-me-downs
from Daniel) we brought back is a rocking horse. It's wooden and
furry. Arno loves to climb onto it and hug it. He's still
pretty small to accomplish this, though, even after his Mommy taught
him the steps in the procedure, and sometimes he wants to climb it
without letting go of his precious farm truck. That doesn't work.
Aug 1, 2004 Arno loves
company. He gets
really excited and happy when any of his mama's friends come visit.
Bettina writes: Arno is a good observer and he
wants to do whatever Daddy and Mommy do. For instance, we put
pasta in his high chair tray and mean to let him eat with his
fingers. He sees Daddy and Mommy using fork to eat pasta.
He wants a fork. Or, another meal, Mommy feeds him noodle soup
with chopsticks and a spoon. He insists he wants a pair of
chopsticks and some noodles in his high chair tray to practice using
chopsticks to eat noodles. At dinner, he sees Daddy drink
water from a blue plastic cup. He wants one, too. And the
cup has to be a blue plastic cup like Daddy's.
Arno likes to wear Daddy and Mommy's shoes.
Jul 17, 2004 Arno is 17 months old
today. The
big event of the past month was our trip
to
Oregon
and
Washington.
We
explored
the
Portland
area,
visitied
with
the
Lovells
in Washington, and visited Crater Lake.
Arno's newest word is "pup," which means "paper."
He's narrowed his diet to formula, bread, pasta, yogurt, cottage
cheese, and a little fruit. Corn on the cob, for instance, no
longer interests him. He likes to feed himself and has developed
a habit of lounging on the mattress in his room to drink his
formula. He likes to hear Daddy's guitar several times a
day. Yesterday he went to Gymboree for the first time, an event
Mommy has been trying to arrange for a long time. He waited until
class was over to become active. Mommy takes him to children's
story hour at the library once a week, which seems to be a good social
event.
Arno picked up the watering can yesterday and carried
it around, "watering" the plants on the porch. (There happened to
be no water in the can.) He's been doing this for weeks, but
watching it today, I thought, "every moment he sees one of us doing
anything, he's thinking that's something for him to do, too."
That's not quite accurate, because he sees us eating all kinds of food
that he won't touch. But nevertheless, the point is taken that I
am a role model without even knowing it, sometimes.
Jun 20, 2004 What's new with Arno in the past
month? Let's see... at diaper time, he brings the diaper to
the parent; he dances and sings to his favorite music; he puts
his shaped pieces into the corresponding shaped holes without any help
finding the right hole. Photos.
May 21, 2004 My uncle Jim posted some nice photosof Arno from a recent visit.
The visit to Dr. Witter went much better than
expected. Arno was preoccupied with the resident toy trucks, and
his exam was not in the same room as previous visits, so he wasn't too
apprehensive. Then it turned out that the office was out of the
combination vaccine he needs, so his shot was postponed until next
week. Oh, happy day! I think it's good that he got to visit
that office once without getting a shot.
He weighed 24 lbs and 4 oz, measured 19.5" around the
head (but I got 20' on a separate measurement) and 32' long.
Arno's a lot like a cat. He communicates a lot
with cat-like body language - walking around to my back and grabbing my
shoulders, to tell me he wants to ride on my back; bringing his sandals
to Bettina, to tell her he wants to go outside. The difference
between Arno and the cat, though, is that the cat never develops any
further than this.
May 19, 2004 Arno's literary interests have
broadened. Tonight, first he brought me The Cuddly Beasties Alphabet Book to
read
to
him.
When
we
were
done
with
that,
he
went
to
his bedroom
to pick up Are You My Mother? and
brought
it
back
to
me.
He
tries
to
sit
in
my
lap
for reading, but
he doesn't quite know how to maneuver into the right position.
Just now, he's "reading" Barney's
Color Train on his own.
He turned 15 months old on Monday, and goes to Dr.
Witter for his shots on Friday. Poor little guy.
Apr 23, 2004 Arno rarely crawls
any more. You
can see
him walking and performing other amazing stunts in our new set of pictures.
Apr 10, 2004 Arno's walking skills continue to
improve. Now we frequently see him take ten or so steps at a time.
He loves to operate the CD player in the living
room. If he sees us there, he heads over as fast as he can.
He likes to push the lid down and press the play button.
Apr 7, 2004 Arno's walking has been several episodes
of three or four steps each, every day, until today, when he made about
eight steps in the kitchen. He's also practicing new linguistic
skills, saying "golly golly golly" a lot.
His favorite book, "Barney's Color Train," has a couple
pages loose, that need to be taped back into place. He'll sit in
my lap for about six or eight pages of this book every night; other
books won't last two pages.
Tonight, he's getting into my socks and underwear
drawer for the first time. He took everything out - standard
toddler behavior. But now he's putting everything back in.
That's my boy!
Mar 30, 2004 Arno has started walking hands-free. Last night
he took the three feet or so from his daddy to the coffee table on his
feet. Tonight he made similar treks a few times.
Mar 17, 2004 We have new
photos. Arno is thirteen months old
today. It's harder to take photos of him than it used to be,
because he moves so quickly, and the first flash completely captivates
him, pulling him in to get as close to the camera as he can.
Arno's favorite evening activity now is riding on
Daddy's back or shoulders.
Mar 14, 2004 Last night Arno spoke his fourthword (that we understood): "truck." Actually, he said
"duck," very clearly, but it was also quite clear that he meant
"truck." Also among his accomplishments now: his twelfth
tooth is showing.
Feb 27, 2004 Poor Arno was a nervous wreck at the doctor's
office for his one-year-old appointment. He got more and more
upset as time went by, until finally he got his two shots, one in the
arm and one in the thigh.
On a happier note, tonight I saw Arno stand hands-free,
in the center of the living room, for about ten seconds, before he
nonchalantly dropped back down to go after another toy.
This week saw Arno's first episode of diaper
rash. We looked it up in all our baby books, and at first had
trouble using all that information to figure out what kind of diaper
rash he had, though eventually it became clear enough that probably an
unusual diet had led to a bowel movement with contents that irritated
his skin. He cried a lot at diaper changing time, and at first,
the zinc oxide ointment seemed to hurt, but after a day or so, it
improved considerably. He's still getting over it now. Dr.
Witter was great, calling us back right away when Bettina called and
left a message asking for help.
Feb 19, 2004 We had a small celebration for Arno's birthday
on Tuesday (Feb 17). Daddy made a poppy seed cake and covered it
with whipped cream. Mommy got hats, balloons, and blowouts.
We'll get some pictures up later. But the slide show linked
below, on the Feb 14 entry, has a few new photos in it.
Tonight, our neighbor, Mrs. Wyatt, came over with a
Christmas present for Arno. (She'd been sick, and thoughtfully
waited to get well before coming over.) She's a wonderful
lady. She has young grandchildren in Bali, and she's starting to
plan her annual trip to visit them.
Arno prefers sleeping on the mattress on the floor,
instead of in the crib, because that way, when he wakes up, he can go
wandering right away, instead of having to yell for help.
Feb 14, 2004 More Arno updates:He's sprouting his
eleventh tooth (his third molar) now. He's developing dexterity -
he can put the balls into the ball blower, and he can put the rings on
the pole. (Well, we know what that means.) Family
pictures from Taiwan are up.
Feb 12, 2004 OK, so lots has been going on. We've gone
to Taiwan, come back, been busy. So, where are the pictures, you
ask? I'll try to get some up this coming weekend.
Arno's latest trick is, when he wants to take something
with him from one part of the house to another, he'll toss it ahead of
him, crawl up to it, toss it again. He seems to get a big kick
out of this process.
Jan 18, 2004 We have new pictures.
We
all
had
fun
today
when
friends
from
my
Project
Seed
days
(Ann Park,
Steve Trowbridge, Jim Clarke and Liz Maxwell) came for lunch, with
Steve and
Ann's kids, three year old Daniel and five year old Sara. The
kids played together well, and Arno was once again the beneficiary of
lots of great hand-me-down clothes and more.
Watching Arno crawl rapidly across the kitchen floor,
his diaper-clad bottom wiggling back and forth, Bettina observed that
he looks a bit like a duck from behind.
Jan 17, 2004 Arno is eleven months old today. Last night he
played a game he invented with his Mommy, where he crawls away, around
the corner and out of sight, and then he comes back laughing, to see
his Mommy make funny noises at him, back and forth, back and
forth. A little later, he looked at me and said, "Daddy."
Perfectly.
Jan 10, 2004 Some of Arno's nicknames: Mr.
Poopster; Fusster Buster; Xiao No No; Little Varmint; Ornery
Varmint; Xiao Huai Huai; Sugar Punkin; Sweetie Pie; Booger Boy; Xiao
Kicki-Poo; Little Stinker.
Nowadays, a significant part of taking care of Arno
is stopping him from getting into things. We have jury-rigged
barriers all over the place, somewhat inconvenient for us, but very
inconvenient for Arno. Naturally, he gets especially interested
in the things that we won't let him touch. He tries to trick us
and boogie quickly to the forbidden zone when we are distracted.
Then he gets upset when his plans are foiled.
Arno's cousins in Taiwan are all getting ready for
him. They've been arguing with each other about who will get to
hold him first. Tonight, Little One Zero told Bettina that she's
already made Arno's bed. Bettina asked if L.O.Z. will change
Arno's diaper. LOZ hesitated and asked, "will he kick me?"
Arno's uncle Ya Chuan works in China now, in
Shanghai. He volunteered to work on Chinese New Year, and
arranged to fly back to Taipei the same day we fly in (the day after
New Year). He'll get there an hour before us, so we'll all go
home together.
Arno likes brown rice, better than pretty much any
other food we share with him.